<p>^^,^^^Lawl, so basically, you guys want to do the asking so you feel all ‘masculine’, but you also want the girl to drop enough hints first, so that there’s no real chance of being rejected.</p>
<p>If you take being asked out by a girl as an insult to your manliness, then you are just terribly, terribly insecure.</p>
<p>lololol you completely misunderstood the point of my post, nowhere in the post did i say it would insult me if a girl asks me out, i said “it would be much better” which means i am more comfortable with it, and I dont need anyone to drop hints, i just dont want mixed signals.
Maybe you would like to understand what i am saying fully before you go call me insecure</p>
<p>HarryJones, what are you talking about? </p>
<p>I didn’t say anything about “feeling masculine”, I just know how us men operate. The only man who wants a girl to ask him out is the man who cant get a girl. I don’t have that problem, maybe you do. </p>
<p>If a girl was to pursue me the same way I pursue a girl that like, then yes, I would see her as desperate. Why? Because that is what I have been accustomed to. Maybe if EVERY girl in the world was to switch roles and pursue us instead, then maybe I would change my mind. But a girl should know that guys make the first move and guys want to be in control. Girls want a guy who is confident and in control. That is why “wussy” men become friend-zoned and aren’t considered potential boyfriends. </p>
<p>Lets speak hypothetically for a second here. Suppose a girl did ask you out Harry and you said yes. Do you expect her to pay for your dinner? Do you expect her to pick you up at 8? Do you expect her to call you and fight for your attention? Would that turn you on? It sure as hell wouldn’t turn me on, and I would never expect a girl to do those things for me. Especially not on a first date. </p>
<p>So if YOU want a girl to ask you out, then post your results if that ever happens to you. I would love to see how this alternate scenario works out. But until then, I definitely don’t want a girl to ask me out. I know I will perceive it as desperate, and I know many more men would too. And that is just the ugly truth.</p>
<p>@footballthuggin2:</p>
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What other reason is there for not wanting to be asked out by a girl than an ‘insult to your manliness’?</p>
<p>@CloudyCloud:
Hah, you’re hilarious.
First you say this:
Then you say this:
So basically “We’re not talking about masculinity, but YOU’RE NOT A REAL MAN”. Lawl.</p>
<p>And sure you never actually used the word ‘masculinity’ but what else were you talking about? </p>
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Smh, I just don’t know how to argue against this level of stupidity. This isn’t 1950, you know?</p>
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Dinner -> I’d offer to split, but why not?
pick you up at 8 -> Sure, if she wants to
call you and fight for your attention -> ???
I don’t see your point. I’m not ‘man enough’ to see it, perhaps?</p>
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I never said I WANTED a girl to ask me out. I just said I wouldn’t be against a girl asking me out. As to the rest, I just don’t know what to say. It’s alright for a girl to make obvious signals of her interest, but once she actually asks to go out with you, she’s desperate?</p>
<p>I didn’t read the thread, but I saw some caps lock (or was it left shift?) action…</p>
<p>How the hell can this topic turn into an argument?</p>
<p>^Lawl, how can [What</a> do you really want to do with your life?](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/high-school-life/1078714-what-do-you-really-want-do-your-life.html]What”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/high-school-life/1078714-what-do-you-really-want-do-your-life.html) turn into a pro-life/pro-choice argument?</p>
<p>i have no problem being asked out by a girl, hell my ex gf asked me out and it was a terrible relationship, which is why i commented in the first place</p>
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What if the guy never even thought about a potential relationship but still might be apt to say yes? Is the girl supposed to drop hints until he does?</p>
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Care to explain. I don’t care if that’s “how it’s always been done.”</p>
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That doesn’t necessarily indicate broader implications.</p>
<p>Well… it’d be a nice change, since apparently, I’m a rejection magnet.</p>
<p>I am really not going to argue over this hypothetical situation. The simple fact is that most girls will never ask a guy out. There is a reason behind this. If you guys don’t like that reason, then tough cookies.</p>
<p>Most confident men would never want a girl to ask them out. I sure as hell don’t, and neither do none of my male friends. HarryJones, if you want a girl to ask you out then by all means, have fun with that. But I am not going to have you misconstrued my words and make it seem like I am arguing agaisnt one thing when I am really arguing agaisnt another.</p>
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If I’m going to be accused of misconstruing things…</p>
<p>Yo, HarryJones, want to go out with me? ;)</p>
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Once again you have failed to tell us the nature of this so-called “reason.” And I don’t think anyone’s arguing that a guy should sit around and wait for a girl to ask him out, just that there shouldn’t be a standard where the guy HAS to be the one asking the girl out. By no means does this imply weakness, I’m not sure where you’re getting that from.</p>
<p>^Yeah, this.</p>
<p>^^Sure, just give me a second to adjust my make-up. [noparse];)[/noparse]</p>
<p>Men seldom make passes at girls who make passes…</p>
<p>If guys don’t want their wives to work, I’m never getting married.</p>
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Haha at my school 14 year olds and 18 year olds are sometimes in the same grade</p>
<p>I think it’d be cool if she just asked; that way there’s not much confusion.</p>