<p>And I have had the biggest crush on him since the 9th grade. It all started out when we were volunteering for the same teacher. We would be in close contact with each other every day. The thing is that we played the "I hate you, you hate me but we really like each other" type of thing. Like, he was a red sox fan, and I am a yankees fan and we would constantly be talking about it. And whenever I was in class, after school, wherever he would be staring at me. ALL OF THE TIME. I know that it could be because I had something on my face or looked super ugly that day, but he did it out of the corner of his eye and stuff and would look away when i looked up. I don't know what to think. So on the last day of the 9th grade he came up to me and was about to say something, but I left before he could. So now it is 12th grade, and he continues to stare at me all of the time. For example, we were doing a project together and he sat like really close to me and put his foot on top of mine. ( this was in the library) He also invited me over his house to work on the project, and we almost kissed. ALMOST. (im still a kiss virgin lol). But the thing is, he has a girlfriend, and he's been with her for a year. Should I tell him that i like him? Or just ignore him completely? Helppp!!</p>
<p>i think you missed your chance… its really not fair to him or his girlfriend to interfere…</p>
<p>You shouldn’t engage in a relationship with him until he breaks up with his girlfriend. It’s unfair to you and her. I’d wait until that occurs.</p>
<p>Congratulations to the poster above me!</p>
<p>You gotta be aggressive.</p>
<p>Make the first move. Show him your affections.</p>
<p>You don’t want to be the ***** who stole the boyfriend. </p>
<p>I wouldn’t get physical with him until he breaks off the relationship.</p>
<p>Dont be a homewrecker. :|</p>
<p>Idk this type of situation happened w/ my friend. She basically just told him that she liked him. The next day he broke up w/ his gf. 2 weeks later my friend and he are together. It’s an ehhhhhh situation. You don’t want to be the relationship breaker, but at the same time you should just tell him directly.</p>
<p>You don’t want to live with any regrets.</p>
<p>GO FOR IT.</p>
<p>If you’re a senior, does it really matter if you steal someone’s boyfriend? I mean you’ll all be gone soon anyway. Better to enjoy it while you can. And if he’s willing to break it off then they obviously didn’t have much anyway.</p>
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YES</p>
<p>He was a boy
She was a girl
Can I make it anymore obvious?
He was a punk.
And she did ballet.
What morea can I say?
He wanted her.
She’d never tell.
Secretely she wanted him as well.</p>
<p>“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”</p>
<p>Would you like it if some girl with a crush on him interfered with your relationship (if you had a boyfriend)?</p>
<p>The boy isn’t being fair to either you or his girlfriend. He might be the love of your life, but you should stay away from him or at least remain casual/uninterested until he breaks things off with his girlfriend. After he does, let him make the first move. Call me old-fashioned, but I agree with the Greg Behrendt theory. If a guy really cares about you and wants you to be his gf, no matter how shy he is, he’ll make a solid move and you can say yes. Otherwise, just move on. Never let a boy keep you hanging. You deserve better.</p>
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<p>If the OP’s crush wasn’t single, this still shouldn’t apply. There’s no reason why she should be less ‘responsible’ for revealing her true feelings or allowing him to do so like she said she did in 9th grade (if that’s what he was going to tell her).</p>
<p>Dnerd, I didn’t quite get what you were saying. I meant that *the line you quoted) applies if the guy had broken up with his girlfriend, which seems a clear enough indication for both the OP and the guy to make moves for each other. From personal experience I prefer to let boys make the first move, because when girls do the asking out, if often fuels the guy’s ego. Nevertheless, the OP is free to make a move. It really depends on what the boy in question is like and her own individual context. Unless the boy and his girlfriend have broken up, the OP shouldn’t interfere. That’s just mean. And neither should the boy attempt to kiss the OP, because that’s fair to neither of the two girls. I’ve been in quite a few similar situations. Staying composed and waiting for the boy to tie up his loose ends was always the best, most dignified move I could make.</p>
<p>You said that when a guy cares about someone or even wants her as his gf, he’ll be the one to make the move, and if he doesn’t, you should move on. Umm… she seems like she really cares about him and wants him as her bf so…</p>
<p>You should be proactive. A guy isn’t going to break up with his girlfriend unless he’s 100 percent sure that he has a better option. If you wait for him to make the first move you might be waiting a while.</p>
<p>you do not want to live with regrets. tell him! but dont be the other girl, you wouldnt want him to do that to you.
how long has he known his gf?</p>
<p>This is so confusing…The only reason I don’t want to do anything is because he and his girlfriend have been together for a year…
This guy isn’t a player or anything, he’s like an awkward nerd type (love them!)
but he’s shown interest…and I don’t know…
<em>facepalm</em></p>
<p>A year…That’s quite a long time. </p>
<p>Maybe their relationship has died down and he’s looking for some romance. I agree with Opie; he probably won’t break up with his current girlfriend if he is unsure of your intentions. If you really like him, you should make it clear. </p>
<p>Even though it is kinda sketchy to be the person who breaks a couple up by confessing to the boyfriend…I still think you should go for it :] </p>
<p>If my boyfriend would consider a confession from another girl, I’d probably want to break up with him anyways. You’re doing the girl…a favor? </p>
<p>Twisted logic :]</p>
<p>Tell us how it goes?</p>
<p>I don’t see it as morally wrong unless he starts dating you before he breaks it off with his current girlfriend. “I’m interested in dating someone else” is a valid reason to breakup. Breakups don’t have to be mutual, and in reality, they rarely are. “Homewrecker” is the cry of a sore loser.</p>