<p>I am a transfer student at a four year university. I went to community college for two years and lived with my parents. I was raised very sheltered and wasn't really allowed to have a social life until now. I am also very very shy. I don't know anyone in this town and I haven't had much luck with making long term friends. What is some advice on making good friends? I've noticed that most people that are my age here already have their group of friends since they've been here since freshman year and so they aren't as eager to make new friends. I've tried joining a club or two but it's just awkward to go alone. I feel that my biggest problem is I don't know how to approach people. I am in a male dominated field and so most of my classmates are guys which just makes it worse because I'm even more shy in that area. I've also noticed that I'm better with smaller groups of people than large groups. What can I do to feel more comfortable in social situations?</p>
<p>I think not thinking too much may assist you, but still being aware. Being calm may also work.</p>
<p>Almost all colleges have counseling centers that are free or very low cost. You can discuss your concerns in complete confidentiality with a counselor. Certainly people on this forum can’t tell you anything that a counselor cannot, and we have only a few sentences instead of hour conversations. By virtue of working at your school (which you haven’t named) they are much more familiar with the opportunities to get involved, as well as have the experience of working with others in similar situations. You are not the first to face this problem.</p>
<p>Best of luck to you!</p>