So the rules are in place. And you haven’t asked directly that they be enforced. I’m not sure why you are here talking to us.
How to solve roommate problems:
So roommates friends are using Living room every night. They are using it even when she is asleep. They are somehow in your apt in the morning and are using your bathroom.
**1) Think about the reasonableness of your request. ** Not having multiple friends over every night until 12am is not reasonable. Having them watch loud tv when the roomie is asleep is not reasonable. Havign them over in the morning and using up all your space/bathroom is not reasonable.
But, her having friends over some time is reasonable.
**2) Take steps to ameliorate the situation yourself. ** If she is asleep, ask them to leave. “Hey, I think it is time for you to go back to your own dorm…Mary is asleep now.” or “Actual person who lives in this apartment needs to make breakfast…excuse me.”
3) Discuss issue with Roommate. “Mary, you need to tell your friends to go home when you go to sleep.” “Mary, your friends are preventing me from making breakfast and taking a shower int he morning. They need to not be here then.”
4) See if roommate is compromising….No, they still come.
**5)Think about what you want to the end result to be…that works for both of you. ** For example: Friends leave by 10:00 pm on weekdays and 12:00 on weekends. No staying over in LR without agreement from you. You and roomie get first dibs on kitchen and bathroom.
**6) Go to RA. State the issue, state that you have talked to roommate (because they will ask), state that you have tried other steps (like talking to her and friends) and ask for help in resolving the situation. ** “RA, I would like to get your advice on figuring out a resolution to an issue I am having with my roommate. .”
Most likely they will come up with a roommate contract for you both to sign.
7) Follow the contract…and if your roommate doesn’t, then go back to the RA. If your roommate retaliates, go back to the RA. So if they stay after 10, then you say "Sorry, you need to go to your dorm now. We’ve agreed that people leave at 10 during the week. If it doesn’t work, call the RA EVERY TIME.
**8) If RA doesn’t follow through or is useless, see if there is a different RA in your building. If not, go to the Housing office. **Explain you have gone through the “chain of command”…that is, you talked to your roommate and then the RA but the issue still exists and it is preventing you from sleeping/using your apartment.
If you are not in on campus apartments, then you need to be more of a pain.
Start asking the people for rent since they seem to be living there.
Threaten talking to landlord about extra roommates.
Tell people to leave.
Unplug TV.
Tell them to get out of the bathroom.