<p>So I'm one of those people who you would probably call "somewhat socially awkward", well depending on who you're talking to.</p>
<p>I don't know what it is, but I act different around different people. Around my friends, I'm funny, talkative, and seem pretty "normal". But when I'm around someone else, let's say a cheerleader for example, I clam up, and become "Mr. Unsocial", barely saying anything, and when I do, it's usually something weird, leaving me with a "Did I really just say that?" feeling.</p>
<p>Also, these people I'm normally "awkward" around, I can socialize fine through text or IM. I've been talking to this girl on the dance team, and we have frequent conversations through text that last hours, but in person, it's a whole different story.</p>
<p>Hey man, what’s the plan, what was that you said?
Sun-tanned, drink in hand, lying there in bed.
I try to socialize but I can’t seem to find
What I was looking for, got something on my mind.</p>
<p>I think everyone speaks differently with different people, and its natural. Just try to be open and don’t think too much. Don’t be afraid to say something stupid or dumb, because its better than to say nothing at all… well most of the time. A lot of the times, people become “socially awkward” with certain people because those people are talking about something you don’t normally talk about or necessarily want to talk about.</p>
<p>you MIGHT have Asperger Syndrome or some kind of social phobia. I’m the same way you- I’m completely “normal” around only my CLOSE friends and family members but I’m COMPLETELY different around other people and it’s sometimes very hard to approach people I barely know. It’s very difficult for me get by presentations or even expressing my opinion to group of people I don’t know. I get anxious around these people and sometimes part of my brain “shuts off”.</p>
<p>^ ^Ditto!
If you feel like you’re about to clam up, crack a joke about a teacher or something you know the other person don’t like, that or pluck the courage to actually talk normally to others. People don’t come to you, you come to them.</p>
<p>I figured out I’m really quite in school, more introverted, even towards friends I only know from school. But outside of school I’m really extroverted and friendly, even towards strangers.</p>
<p>I think my brain developed something where school is the “quiet” place… so even when I’m with friends I talk a lot less, if I’m in school. The second I’m outside I’m much more outgoing. Which isn’t good, because 1/3 of my day is at school…</p>
<p>I highly doubt this about the OP, he just seems to be shy around people he isn’t the closest too, which is extremely normal in high school. People have different personalities around people they aren’t close too, but by no means does it infer that they have a social phobia. Again, like you said it might be possible, but most people are awkward in high school, I’m sure in college the OP will open up a lot more since you’re meeting new people every single day.</p>
<p>oh ya so on a serious note here, so lets say someone like me(i’m sort of like this) does talk to others. When this happens, I end up not having anything to say like …sup…bye and that is just as bad so… :/</p>
<p>It may also have to do with your self esteem. I should know. After spending a hell thru middle school I become afraid of talking to people my own age.
You have to build an identity, and don’t feel insecure when you’re in a place where no one knows you. The bottom line is JUST BE YOURSELF. Do not lie about anything just to cover yourself up. Start small talks, like “wow its (hot/cold) today!” If you’re in the same class with a person, talk about the teacher or assignments. Remember to smile at everyone you meet. People will like to be around you if you smile a lot, it makes a person seem friendly and comfortable to be around with. Laugh a lot too.
Things will change don’t worry. </p>
<p>“Position yourself as a center of influence - the one who knows the movers and shakers. People will respond to that, and you’ll soon become what you project.” ~ Bob Burg</p>
