<p>Hello, so I'm a sophomore at The University of Kansas. I'm currently taking summer classes and I am just generally extremely confused about this. Why have I not made a single good friend in the past year at college? I am involved in a few organizations. I am friendly (if anything maybe too friendly). I don't go out because parties just aren't my scene. I wasn't even close to popular in high school so I'm pretty used to it. But I am tired of it. I would love to hear your thoughts. </p>
<p>forever alone </p>
<p>Just try going to parties and having some fun man. I’m sure you’ll make friends if you do. You may not think it’s your scene now, but you’d be surprised how fast you grow to love it.</p>
<p>oh. well, I thouht I was alone who doesn’t have a friend. but yeah, now i’m feeling good. however, if any species like good friends existed, NASA would be able to find it. </p>
<p>Wow, I’m also a sophomore at KU taking summer classes! What are the odds of that, lol. For some reason, I find it harder to meet people during the summer than during the school year. I swear all summer I’ve only talked to people I already knew from freshman year because I just feel awkward approaching random older students. Well I’m actually pretty awkward year-round, but that’s a different story. </p>
<p>As for your situation… Are you staying in the dorms next year? I’ll be in Templin Hall for the second year in a row. If you’re staying in a dorm, you should try hanging out with people on your floor regardless of what year they’re in, and going to all the dorm activities and Hawk Week stuff. I met one of my future roommates at an event during the first week of school last year. Everyone’s really chill and friendly during the first two or three weeks before they settle down with a friend group. </p>
<p>Good luck making friends this year! If you want to talk about KU stuff just send me a private message or something. </p>
<p>What about acquaintances? Roommates? I find it a little hard to believe that you have no friends on campus. You could try reaching out to people in your classes (start by asking to study together, hang out at events, ect) or do something really active with the members of your EC organizations. Why do you think this happens? Are you really shy? Or are the students just really different from you that you can’t connect to them. (Which happens to me sometimes, I find it hard to connect to people that want to party 24/7, but you just got to find people with similar interests?)</p>
<p>Ooh and a friendship with @Aurora132231. I see bright things in your future</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice @shawnspencer. My shyness varies. I have acquaintances and two room mates. But I was referring to “real friends.” Like @drexter said they may just not exist. I have good friends at home I guess I just expected to connect with people more easily.</p>
<p>What I really meant and should have asked for is, advice on how to make real friends. Like people that just want to hangout with you for you. Not people that just want to be friends so you can be useful to them and whatnot.</p>
<p>It would probably help if I just didn’t study all the time. Something @shawnspencer said made me realize that I’m not exactly conducive to connecting with people.</p>
<p>Anyways thanks for the therapy session y’all.</p>
<p>Ohh, and @Aurora132231, I’ll be in Lewis next year. </p>
<p>I realize what you mean. I didn’t find out who my “true friends” were until the end of senior year of high school. Strangely enough, I found that time rather empowering and opened up to people in ways I hadn’t before. There’s something about realizing that you won’t see half these people ever again that makes you find out who your real friends are. Now the group is smaller, around 10-15 people and we still hang out pretty often, and as a group. The rest, although I enjoyed their company, and it was fun spending time with them, I realize I am ready to move on from anyway.</p>
<p>Best of luck with your situation!</p>
<p>Its called “Making effort”.
Start by joining student clubs and organizations, sports, etc.
People navigate to other people of shared interest. Classroom, labs, work-study or roommate, are not the most common setting for best-friends, although they happen sometimes.
So make an effort, go out there and join some groups, and before you know it, you will build solid friendships. Life is too short to continuing being shy…you have more courage than you give yourself credit for. So stat using it.
Bets of luck to you.</p>