Hello all,
I figured I’d post here to get some advice on what future steps to take after describing my situation below.
So:
I am currently a sophomore enrolled at a consensus top 15/top 20 university in the country (don’t want to disclose the name because I don’t want others to base their opinions on my school based on my experience).
I obviously was successful academically in high school, and am running a ~3.0 GPA here so far, which I am actually fine with (though it seems others here are very very smart-just like at any top college). Socially, I am having a similar issue that others seem to be having: turning acquaintances into friends. A lot of clubs/activities here are very selective, and a lot of the non-selective clubs don’t meet much besides the occasional GBM. I made a ton of friends on my freshman floor, but alas now we are all dispersed throughout campus which makes it harder (but obviously not impossible) to see each other, and I feel as though I have slid backwards socially.
At this moment I am feeling very disillusioned about the way this semester (and college in general) has gone. I am not interested in any of my classes, not interested in working hard and putting in extra effort (once I get to a B, I have a hard time seeing the point in working harder, which is bad I know but…), don’t really know what I want to do after my undergraduate studies are completed, and just want to go home and be with my family/ close HS friends and watch football. A much needed respite (Winter Break) is coming up, but the issue is in mid-January Spring Semester will start and this whole cycle will happen all over again.
I know this school is the best place for me overall (and transferring could honestly make this situation worse), but I would like to get to a point where I am legitimately enjoying every moment of my experience, which isn’t the case with me at this present moment.
Overarching Question: How can I improve my own college experience in this situation going forward?
A couple more nuggets of background info that may help:
- I have Asperger’s Syndrome but have grown out of it for the most part, and honestly don’t think this is contributing to the social issues I am having that much.
- My school is across the country from where I live, but I think going to school out of state is better for me because I don’t take home for granted and am learning how to deal with situations on my own which I am grateful for.
Thanks for reading.