<p>My boyfriend is going to live in an apartment off campus this year, and I'm staying in a dorm. He doesn't have a car and the bus that goes between apartment and campus only runs at really limited daytime hours. He suggested that every time I come over, I could just sleep over at his apartment for the night, and initially I said yes, but then later I realized it might be a bad idea. </p>
<p>I'm gonna be really busy this year. I'm taking 17 credits, undergrad research, involved in 2 clubs, and I just got a job as a tutor. If I stay over at his place all the time I may not be able to get all my work done, because distractions ;) I'm also worried my roommates are going to judge me if I stay the night a lot. I already know two of them, and they're both really focused on academics and they want to stay single all through college. The third is almost a stranger so idk about her. </p>
<p>I really want to hang out with my boyfriend during the days or evenings, but the lack of transportation at night is an issue. Would it be rude to ask him if we could limit overnight stays to just one night a week? I would still see him on campus during other days, and even some evenings if I can get a ride back to the dorm. </p>
<p>So is one night a week a good compromise? Also what are your opinions on staying the night at a boyfriend's apartment in general? </p>
<p>-No, it’s not rude. If he has an issue with it, that’s his problem not yours.
-Who gives a flip what your roommates think?
-If he’s too much of a distraction, he should respect your decision to put academics first. </p>
<p>I have no opinions about people staying the night at others’ places. I don’t know why one would really have an opinion about something that doesn’t affect them. </p>
<p>Fwiw, my boyfriend (now fiance) and I lived together since 2nd semester sophomore year. My grades actually went up when we started dating because he didn’t let me have “distractions” until after I was done with my work. </p>
<p>It’s not rude at all. You’re not under any obligations to let him “distract” you every night. If he cares about you, he’ll understand that you have obligations to take care of. I assume that he’s a student too, which means he’ll have some obligations as well. I’m sure he’s capable of “distracting” himself if need be. </p>
<p>Perhaps think about staying over on weekends but not during the week. Have lunch on campus together. Use the week for studying/homework. Also I am sure his apartment mates would not someone there every night.</p>
<p>Tell him that is a sweet thought, but you can’t do that every time because you have to keep up with academics/etc. What you will do is…</p>
<p>My friends judged me and even got mad at me for spending the night at my boyfriends. Although, it should be no one else’s business. If you do choose to stay at your boyfriends, and your friends are like mine, try not to let it get to you. Also, no it would not be rude to limit yourself to one night a week or weekends. </p>
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