<p>I haven't posted much but I've been reading these forums for awhile now. I've read so many posts about people wanting to send their kids to schools they can't afford and lots of good advice telling them not to. I've always agreed with that advice and now I find myself in the position of not wanting to take it.</p>
<p>My son auditioned at four schools. Eastman was his reach (and dream school) and he had a couple of safer options. He was accepted to three schools and waitlisted at Eastman. He has since declined two of the schools, accepted UT (which is in-state and offered him some merit aid), and stayed on the waitlist at Eastman. </p>
<p>Yesterday, he got offered a spot at Eastman. S was on cloud nine. He was absolutely ecstatic. Then we got the financial offer. They offered some merit money but it's just not enough. Though we've told him all along that Eastman would only happen with a very generous offer he seems to have forgotten all of that. He just keeps trying to convince me that we can make it work. That we have to. That you just don't pass up this kind of opportunity. So what if he has debt, everyone has debt. </p>
<p>Today his lesson teacher called me and basically told me that this is an opportunity that he shouldn't pass up, it will open doors for him that UT can't, most students live with debt, and so on and so on. Did I mention that he's young and single and has never had to put anyone through college?</p>
<p>My son has two years of GI bill funding transferred to him from his dad (the other two years went to our other child). So really we only have to be concerned about the last two years. </p>
<p>The difference in our cost (tuition/fees/room/board less merit) for the last two years at Eastman versus the last two years at UT is about $57k which we don't have lying around. And he has definite plans to go to grad school, so there's that to consider.</p>
<p>I know in my head that we just can't do this. But in my heart, I want to let him go and think that somehow in the next two years we'll figure out how to pay for the last two years. Or we'll take some loans or borrow from my 401(k). And then my head is screaming "what??? who is this person??". </p>
<p>This is hard. I feel guilty to admit it, but I kind of wish they'd just rejected him. </p>