<p>Dear Momsdream, (or should it be Momsnight-terror this time) I risk bringing up a sore subject, but he might, if he takes some certain class, have my D as a TA. :)
Oh my! She will not be what you pictured in your dream, I feel sure. Everything I have learned about the school has been positive, and your son will be fine . . .the whole experience is a growth process, and some parts of it might stretch to the point of pain, but he will handle it ALL. You have taught him strength. Hang in there!</p>
<p>OH NO!! Your D, the TA? Does she prefer cookies or brownies? Or cash???? LOL</p>
<p>I have been thinking about this too, but during the day. Specifically that in HS, they have so many measures - quizzes, tests, presentations, papers, plus a boost to the grade sometimes for particpation. But in college, the grading in some classes can be on a paper or two, a midterm and a final. Will my S who has done so well in HS transition well to this system? Especially with all the wonderful distractions - well, alternative learning opportunities! - at colleges and universities. </p>
<p>I mentioned it at one point, when he was calculating the grade he expected in a class, adding in a little extra for that participation piece, and he gave me a great answer: If I get a low grade or feel I am struggling or falling behind, I'll get help - I'll go see the prof, make an appointment with the TA, see if there is a tutoring program or a Writing Lab. I breathed a sigh of relief. Most schools do offer various support services, and we should make sure that our kids know they are there.</p>
<p>Momsdream LOL!! Food always works . . . dark chocolate is best! </p>
<p>Hope your sleep is more restful tonight!</p>
<p>Checked with the kid: CIA, NSA, and FBI all recruit at MIT.</p>
<p>The college process is the confluence of two of the most powerful anxieties we experience -- rejection and separation. Even if our kids overcome the first, we are still faced with the second. Nightmares, cold sweats, panic attacks even after all is settled? Sounds obsessive, doesn't it, but it's common. Kind of like reacting to a nearmiss in a accident. The subconscious just keeps percolating even when we rationally know all is well.</p>
<p>I still have worry dreams about my oldest son. My girls-never! A few have actually come to fruition! Maybe we will always worry about these boys!</p>
<p>momsdream - the prognosis is not good! I still occasionally dream about college, I am sitting in a class, clueless, wondering, "What am I dong here? I already have a degree!" :confused: and I have been out for 25 years!! </p>
<p>What is kind of weird is that your dream was based on my reality 25 years ago! I got my first pair of glasses in grad school after I realized I couldn't read what was written on the board while my classmates had no prob. So, if your son can't keep up with the prof writing on the board, have him get his eyes checked!! ( I KNOW I KNOW, IT WAS JUST A DREAM!!)</p>
<p>And also, one of my very few crime problems was that my van (yes, I had a van) was broken into - not damaged at all - and my CB radio was stolen! :) Thank God!!</p>
<p>Momsdream
I was so happy for my S at acceptance, then as time to go approached, I worried he wouldn't be happy being at the mean or below, and maybe it would have been better for him to go to a college a bit easier. Since he skipped senior year, he's been getting all the college mail. I've saved 2 bagfuls for him, in case he wanted to transfer. He's doing just fine, so now my worries have moved on to 'what will happen when he falls in love?', or "what if gets ill?" Its amazing how I can generate worries.
Your S will still be close to home, and you can provide nourishing meals (emotionally and physically). He sounds like an exceptional young man, and I suspect he will do just fine. I think we need a support group for us lonely moms.</p>