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<p>hi all, </p>

<p>My name is Mike and I currently go to TTU (Texas Tech University) and transferred from UTEP (UT of El Paso). I am in my 3rd year as a college student and currently a freshman. I had changed majors a few and transferring took away some credits. </p>

<p>A little background about myself. I have a passion for gaming and sports. I love to game (not just a low life but professionally with a team and what not) and to play basketball and football and much more. I have had good grades in high school and always studied. So back to the present...</p>

<p>I have been working my ass off since day one of college. I been giving my time to the tutoring centers (min. 6 hours.) and even demoted it to my extra free time. I'm trying my best. However, I do not belong in college. It wasn't my thing to begin with. My dad graduated and so has my mom. My two sisters graduated and my brother is about to graduate. I am 20 years old. College has been kicking my butt. I lied to my parents (which i regret fully now) about my grades. I thought maybe a fresh start would do. They are paying for all my college and probably paid at least 40k already. Now, I want to drop out and move to Phoenix with my buddy. I don't need the nice and expensive stuff. I rather work at statefarm or something and just be with my friends and do my passions. However, I continuously been thinking about how to tell them. Every thing I think of ends in me as telling my parents I am a failure to their eyes and my family. They will be very disappointed and be disgusted at me. I am failing every class despite my effort. I do not know what to do. </p>

<p>I am thinking of just running away but I can't hurt all my family. It wouldn't be right. I just do not know what to do. I cry myself to sleep and I am looking for options. I also keep thinking of my 13 year old cousin and my 8 year old cousin and my 6 month old nephew. I feel like they will view me as a failure and I am their role model. I can't go through college anymore but I can't fail my family. I know I am not graduating. Can anyone give me viable options?</p>

<p>Thanks for reading in advanced. </p>

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<p>Your family loves you. You are bravely facing your situation. There is a college recruiting gamers like you. Robert Morris in Chicago gives scholarship.
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Talk to adviser about how to proceed. What about IT or game apps studies? Good luck, your success is around the corner- don’t give up or run away.</p>

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<p>Hey Mike, I don’t have a lifetime’s worth of knowledge to back myself up, but any input is worth it, eh? </p>

<p>What are you studying? Is it something that you love? Or at least like? That could be your achilles heel right now. You should try/learn new things (god the cliche…) that you are actually interested in. Another thought is that your grades right now is another heavy factor; when all you see are depressing scores, well who wouldn’t want to stop? Just wait it out, just a little bit longer for the next mark you get back that could lift your spirits again. What about studying abroad? Can be the mini fresh start that you’re looking for. </p>

<p>Have you thought about transferring to another university? Maybe the academic environment at your current school isn’t right for you. </p>

<p>If not for the education, stay for the connections and networking, for your sport and gaming. This is where you’d be meeting your future competition or partners. </p>

<p>But, if you will drop out, plan. Have something to drop out for; leave to pursue, not to run from, something. Do you have a job that you would be happy following? Organization to join? Recruiters? What is waiting in Phoenix? Vacation before you decide. </p>

<p>I haven’t really mentioned family because well, it’s your life. My mum told me to ‘go to a good school’ and ‘be happy,’ the most ■■■■■■ vague advice ever, by the way, so I was obsessed by the idea of ‘good.’ I’m the only kid in my entire family, outside of nuclear and all, that can go to uni so yeah, pressures on, even though my grades are pitiful. Funny we are complete opposites. But getting past that idea, being motivated because I want to do something, not because I don’t want to disappoint, really helped.</p>

<p>From an idealistic right brainer, I think you can only be brilliant with something that you love. Don’t conform to your siblings because they aren’t you and they don’t have your skills. Besides, you could be Uncle Mike who did that crazy ass thing that landed him on his feet. </p>

<p>Best of luck lad</p>