<p>Sue,
I also thank you for starting this thread because there are a number of us going through this stage and we can all relate. </p>
<p>For me, it started last year when my oldest of two girls entered college. I found the experience on my end as bittersweet. I was SO happy for her to be starting this new adventure in her life that she had worked hard toward and was truly ready for in all respects. It was such an exciting time in her life. I wanted it for her. Her dreams were coming true. I was not worried about her liking it (she truly loves it, goes to Brown). But I really was sad (am tearing up even now thinking about this whole thing) to have her leave home for what really is for good. I had been apart from her for numerous summers and while I had missed her, it was never permanent. But I knew this was different because it truly marked an end of an era of her youth and child rearing (even though we still parent her of course.....and let's not forget pay the bill!). No longer would she be in our daily lives. No more daily checking in about her day. No more watching all her games, events, shows, etc. Luckily for me, that particular daughter loves to stay in touch and she does call every 3 days or so and fills us in but of course that is not the same as knowing their every move and sharing this and that in person. Now ,she does things and I don't know where she is every minute like I used to. She is certainly leading a far more independent life (as it should be). It really doesn't matter THAT much how many hours away your kid goes to school because it is still AWAY. She is four hours away by car and we mostly just see her on major holidays or vacations. We did have the joy in the middle of winter of seeing many of her collegiate ski races in New England that we could drive to for the day (between my going to auditions with my other kid...what a winter) and so I felt like I got to do a little bit of the parent watching event thing that we did SO frequently through their daily lives for years, but just not as much as before. She is also away for a bulk of the summer but will be home the month of August so I look forward to having her here in our daily lives for that short bit. I TOTALLY relate to Catsmom, however, in those initial weeks after she left for college. I, too, practically broke down in the grocery aisle and had to remind myself that I did not need to pick up X or Y that this child liked because she was no longer at home! I felt teary for a week but got used to it and I am still used to it and it is not so bad. But even her younger sister was affected by her leaving. She wrote one of her college essays about her sister leaving home and how it affected her! She started with how it had hit her when she had to set the table and it was just for three. Same idea. Her essay made me cry. </p>
<p>So, now, I'm going to go through this all again in about a month or so with second daughter and I think this will be worse. First, she is just 16 1/2 and she is leaving home a year sooner than I had imagined and so that adds to the angst of it. Also, she is heading to NYC, the complete opposite of where she grew up in rural Vermont, and while she is SO pysched and will be fine, I will worry about not knowing if she got from point X to point Y ok and no longer being aware of every thing she does and if she is ok and all that. I am not worried about her liking it but more the letting go of my parenting supervision (for my sake, not hers, lol). But what will be even worse is that this is the last kid to go and so it means EMPTY nest, not just losing a kid off to college. It is the END of the parenting era of kids at home. A major shift in our lives and lifestyle. Our days and nights and weekends are full of schlepping them from this activity to that one and while I won't miss some of that busy stuff, I will miss seeing all their events and such. Luckily our child will be on the same coast and so if she is in a show, we can see it. But it is not like the daily stuff now. Some things will be nicer and freer but stilll, it will be empty in other ways. So, again, I am excited for this child though it has not fully hit me yet. We are going shopping for the dorm stuff later this week like MTNester mentioned and yeah, that will hit me. I know when I had to pull away and say good bye to D #1 at Brown, it really broke me up (not her of course) and I anticipate that happening with this child too. I am a sap when it comes to goodbyes. </p>
<p>And so, we can all mop up the tears in early September together. Once we get past the initial shock and get used to it, we can rejoice in our new found freedom as parents/couples! </p>
<p>Susan</p>