<p>I've lurked here at CC for a long time, posted a few, but this is my first thread.</p>
<p>Thank you so much to all in the community for your words of wisdom and support. I'll buy a round at sinner's alley (and yes, I've read the entire thread).</p>
<p>To give back a bit, I submit this link to UCSD tips' for parents for kids' first year in college. They all just struck me as very valid. (yes, I was there because DD is accepted.)</p>
<p>I thought the wise CC members can make a thread like
---the 101 things I wish I knew before .xxx... xxx now = letting go.</p>
<p>I just confirmed with my UCSD D that she doesn't like to hear "these are the best years of your life" as she's studying and working like crazy and getting little sleep. </p>
<p>Do not lose your sense of humor or your perspective. You will need them both!</p>
<p>It is OK and normal to miss your student intensely. Just remember that this is your situation to deal with, not the student's. The new student has his/her hands full dealing with all the changes and upheavals of this new life and should not have to shoulder guilt and responsibility for your emotions.</p>
<p>Younger siblings have a stake in this, too.</p>
<p>Communicate often with your spouse or partner about the imminent departure. You'll be surprised how much they, too, are processing feelings, but your partner's timing and style of showing it may differ radically from your own. It's okay to show things differently; you both care. If you talk it over between the 2 of you, you'll feel less alone with the adult feelings. </p>
<p>Take your time; you won't have it all figured out by next October. It took me, my H, and 2 younger sibs an entire calendar year to get used to the comings and goings and find a new balance. But we did!</p>