<p>I just started college and I've been hanging out with some friends, and I never now how to talk to the guys! I never know what to talk about and I am shy to talk unless I'm drunk. Can I have some tips? And what can I do to make guys like me?</p>
<p>Yes I’m a freshman and a girl. If I make them do all the talking, they’ll think I’m boring!</p>
<p>This sounds totally cliche but “be yourself” – don’t hide your actual interests and you’ll attract others with your same interests.
Confidence is very attractive. Act it even though you don’t feel it. It allows others to approach you knowing they won’t “have to take care of you” in some way.
Get a couple (or many) conversation openers–(what’s your major is always boring but good, where you from, what’s the last good movie you’ve seen). Listen to the answers.
Dress for the occasion.</p>
<p>Going in with an attitude of wanting to talk to guys in college is already what you are doing wrong. You have to go in with your education in mind first. The best girls/guys you talk to is when you least want a gf/bf or “friend” to talk to. They just come out of nowhere. It’s a when you least expect kind of thing, it just happens.</p>
<p>Guys (like me) like various quirks of a girl. That is something unique to each girl and can’t be ‘taught.’</p>
<p>One thing I can say is that I like girls more who talk a lot and keep the conversation going and come up with new things to talk about. I get bored with girls who don’t talk much and I have to keep talking or just end the conversation there. </p>
<p>I agree with kel2012; I’d say it is far easier to talk to and become closer to people you aren’t expecting a relationship with because that may make you less confident and more awkward. </p>
<p>Also, join some clubs and do some activities. It is easier to talk to people who share common interests.</p>
<p>Yes be yourself, but show interest in what they are saying. Ask standard questions; Where are you from?, Whats your major?, What do you want to do?. For ever answer try to find 2 connections to it. Life if they answer “I’m from Tallahassee,FL” respond “My sister went to college there” <just an example, try to find a truthful response. You will have a good conversation going in no time. It will work good with others, some it wont.</p>
<p>Now that I have a son and see the way he and his friends interact with girls, I realize it’s lot easier to talk to boys than I thought! Just talk to them. Wouldn’t you love it if some guy came up to you after class and said “what did you think about that class?” or “was it just me or was that Professor really good/bad/whatever?” I can guarantee you that my son (and his friends) would respond and feel flattered that you were talking to them. If a girl noticed that my son was wearing a t-shirt that she liked (or even thought it was odd!) or listening to music that she liked, and told him that…he would be thrilled. Then of course you can follow up with the bands you like, or has he ever heard of “insert name here” band.</p>
<p>I really wasn’t expecting to make any acquaintances until after the first month. I came in with the mindset of just working hard for good grades, I am not interested in having a girlfriend right now or being some popular student who knows everybody, or trying to fit in anywhere. Well, in the first week, I already have a female friend who drove me home a couple of days of this week. We had classes together, she offered me a ride home the first day after we talked a bit. Second day she waited for me after class to take me home again. We exchanged #'s on the first day, now we are buddies. I made a couple of other friends, all classmates though. </p>
<p>Why don’t people do this more often? Just become friends with your classmates, that’s the easiest thing to do. People from outside of your classes, generally take a little longer to get to know. Just work with what is put in front of you.</p>
<p>Mainstone, you are 100% correct. Lol.</p>
<p>Best thing is when a girl classmate that I don’t know just comes up to me out of all the guys, to ask me a question about the class. You are right, it’s a good feeling. You get all confident and stuff like “Yeah, she digs me, i’m sucha hottie 8]”. Hahaha that actually happened to me on Wednesday but I didn’t think much of it at the time, I just answered her question and moved along.</p>
<p>I don’t feel confident enough to just go up and start talking to guys though! I think I’m pretty, but I’m just not confident. And what do I talk about?</p>
<p>TylerL - Omg my sister actually went to college in Tallahassee!</p>
<p>Sit next to the guy you find most attractive, after class, ask him if he understood the class or mention a part of the class or something, and make believe you didn’t understand it. Then ask for his number, or his email[email is better for now, you don’t want to be so aggressive], and tell him if you can email him about things from the class. He’d say yes probably, so you email him from time to time about the class. Always say thanks in the end, put little smiley faces, call him nice, say things like “OMG I owe you one”. Get more aggressive as the weeks or months go by, depending on how slow you are.</p>
<p>Some girl in Speech class this past week, asked for my email to “ask me questions about the class”. Personally to me, she came off as genuine, and not like she was trying to hit on me or anything. She has yet to email me[she’s really good, I know that technique. The “wait one week to email/text the person, to not seem desperate” technique] she knows what she’s doing.</p>
<p>I don’t know, that’s what I would do to a girl. But then again, I really never got to use any of my James Bonds-esque stunts to get girls contacts. It’s usually pretty easy, it’s not like Mission Impossible like i’m making it out to be. It’s simply for you since you say you have no confidence.</p>