<p>and oh yeah dont abandon your friends b/c they will still be there when its over</p>
<p>if you let her know that you like her first she will take advantage of you </p>
<p>In my opinion, both girls and guys do that.
Some guys can't bear to reject a girl in fear of breaking her heart; but by doing so, he gives her false hope and makes her suffer. Then they go: "I'm sorry...but I only see you as a friend" after making her wait for one or two years.
Or they just don't give a reply and let the girl make a fool out of herself, and laugh at her with his friends (personal experience, wasn't a pleasant one)</p>
<p>But I agree with the friends bit. Don't ditch them for relationships; you'll suffer when it doesn't work out and you can't find anyone to talk to.</p>
<p>To keep on topic, I like guys who understand things I don't understand (I don't necessarily mean academically), and make me happy when I'm lost/confused/sad. Chauvinist pigs get on my nerves. Big time.</p>
<p>For the love of whatever you hold dear, let the girl know how you feel. If you want more than a friendship, than make a move. If you've got a girlfriend, try to refrain from flirting with her. It sucks to be lead on by a guy who is flirting like there's no tomorrow, just to find out that he has a girlfriend. </p>
<p>A word to the misinformed guys on the board who think that girls who post on CC don't have social lives or know anything about the opposite sex. You're wrong; being intelligent is not an indication of a lack of a social life, or a lack of insight about guys.</p>
<p>I love sexy black hair and smirks/smiles + intelligence. <em>melts</em></p>
<p>i know this is going to spark controversy but lets be serious..... girls have no idea what they want</p>
<p>terry, you are asking for a tongue-lashing....some of the girls around here could rip you to shreds....just my 2 cents</p>
<p>As for what I like in a guy (and yes, I DO know what I want), the only guy I have ever been deeply "in like" with was also the only guy who could make me laugh all the time. He was the guy that I could talk to about some of the dumbest things on Earth, too. I like guys who are intelligent, but not the one-dimensional kind. It would be nice if he was hot by my standards, he'd better agree with some of my morals, and above all, he MUST NOT swagger or cuss constantly. :)</p>
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<p>uhh...since we clearly seem to be generalizing....
True, but girls are ten times more knowledgeable about what they want than guys. At least we don't assume that all we want is the hottest thing we can get our hands on - and then realize 10 years later that we were in fact completely wrong. </p>
<p>to answer the original question, the guys on this thread seem to come closest to the right answer. Every girl wants (or think she wants) something different. That means the best you can do is (a) be yourself, (b) let her know in one way or another that you like her and (c) pray she likes you back.</p>
<p>Terry, you are the perfect example of why guys drive girls crazy (and not in the good way). </p>
<p>The one thing I can't stand is when a guy friend gets a girlfriend and his girlfriend can't stand his girl friends. They are convinced there is something more, when there seriously isn't. Because of this though, they tell their boyfriend to act like a jerk and push every girl he knows away, except her. Then, she breaks up with him, and who does he want to come straight to? Yeah. That part is annoying. Especially when we tell him a girl isn't good and they just think we're being biased and *****y. No, we just speak the truth.</p>
<p>Sorry, that was a bit of a rant. MissMichelle has a point too.</p>
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I can see why a girl would say this, but as a guy, do NOT adopt this mindset right off. I know this is gonna make me sound retarded, but telling a girl "how you feel" is just too easy, and takes all of the mystery out of the relationship. Once you tip your hand, it's totally up to her whether or not the relationship continues, and it seems that in the majority of these situations where the guy is basically at the mercy of the girl, it doesn't work out.</p>
<p>I'm not saying that you shouldn't tell her how you feel eventually...you definitely should. But I don't think it's a good idea to do it while your relationship is still young.</p>
<p>dude... thats exactly what i said</p>
<p>Lol, Oneiros, I love guys with long hair, too! I swear, I have a hair fetish or something, hair is the first thing I look at with a guy...</p>
<p>I agree with the above posters. Don't change yourself to try and find a girl, or get with one particular girl. Most girls will be able to see through that in an instant. Just be happy, and be yourself. Humans are drawn to happy people! Other than that, just follow the basic rules in any relationship: respect, honesty, kindness, etc. If there's a certain girl you like, than treat her NICELY! Open doors for her, pay a tiny bit more attention to her than you pay to her friends, but don't ignore the friends, either! Simple gestures will ingratiate you to her, and pay attention to her, too...you'll be able to tell whether or not she begins to like you back, and listening to her will give you plenty of conversation starters.</p>
<p>just use your common sense..
i'd also advise you not to tell her until you are good friends and have spent time together for a while.. but definitely tell her that you like her; she probably won't approach you for a long time. and don't be too sad if you do get rejected. you've either become really good friends with her, or she really doesn't see you in that way. (i'm not assuming that she will reject you, but just to give a bit of a warning)..
one more thing- please don't tell the whole world once you guys are dating, unless she explicitly says so, or you hear from other people she has told already.</p>
<p>first make sure she likes you too, if she doesn't then you're wasting you're time. make sure you also like her before you ask her out, instead of just thinking she's pretty. as for me, i like shy guys who are funny. dar long hair is a plus.</p>