<p>To start I would like to say that I love both my parents very very much! They're wonderful. But it's my senior year and there has been one common cause between almost all the fights my mom and I have gotten in. I applied to seven schools, including my big state schools (USC and Clemson). My mother seems to never miss a chance to tell me that she thinks ill end up at one of those. Part of me agrees with her, I'm not completely sold on USC yet but I do love Clemson, but part of me is super offended every time she says this which is wear the fighting comes in. My top schools are UNC (long shot), Washington and Lee (need money), and Sewanee. I know she's just trying to prepare me and be realistic but it's still annoying and it makes me feel like she has no faith in me. I will hear from UNC really soon (applied early action) and I'm desperately hoping it will be a deferral at the least but I know that OOS admissions are super selective so I don't expect much. And the chances of me getting money to W&L aren't great either. Has anyone been through similar situations or have any advice?? I just needed to rant a little bit.</p>
<p>I think it is her way of cushioning the blow if you do end up not getting into your reach schools. And if you do get in, then it doesn’t matter anyway. Just remember that no matter what your mother tells you, what happens will happen regardless.</p>
<p>try not to let it get to you when your mother brings it up. she’s probably frustrated and doesn’t understand why you’re getting upset. if you really want to talk about it, tell her gently how you feel, that you understand the reality of the situation, and that you don’t really want to talk about college until decisions come out just to keep yourself open, calm, and unstressed. </p>
<p>if she still continues, just ignore it. this’ll all be done in a few months, so no need to get yourself upset over it :)</p>
<p>I know the feeling, I’m not even near applying yet and my parents have basically told me I’m going to the state flagship for various reasons. I mean, I’ll be applying to lots of others schools anyway. Just keep in mind that anything can happen, if you get accepted elsewhere it will be to your credit. Your mom is probably worried, like my parents are, that if you can’t go to UNC or whatever dream school you’ll be heartbroken…I’m sure she does believe in you, but college admissions are so out of parents’ control they feel helpless and as if they need to prepare you for disappointment. The waiting is the worst part, soon you’ll know one way or another!</p>
<p>Not as familiar with UNC but know lots about the others. I think you said on another thread accepted to clemson and USC honors and on track to get palmetto fellows. We went thru this with out Ds. D1 got full tuition at W&L and loves it there. If you get contacted to compete for Johnson, you might get some good money there but it is very competitive. D1 also competed for scholarship at Sewanee and got some money, but in no way came close to in state schools. It’s hard to walk away from palmetto fellow money which makes instate very affordable. D2 was accepted to lots of very selective schools but only given small amount of money. Even though not first choice, she had great experience at scholars competition at USC and decided to follow the money…loves USC and puts money in her account every semester. </p>
<p>If your family falls into the category of not qualifying for needs based aid, then your parents are probably just preparing you the chance that you’ll get accepted to your OOS choices but get little money. Good luck! All the schools I know about should be sending out letters soon if your are invited to participate in scholarship competitions.</p>
<p>Maybe you and your mother can agree to not talk to college until X date. like a cease fire… maybe she’s just scared, I’m sure she’s having a hard time to</p>
<p>Good idea^ say that you would like her to stop bringing it up until you get the letter from UNC</p>
<p>Good Luck on your app</p>
<p>My dad just says that because he knows that I’ll probably get into my dream school- it’s just that unless I get a hefty scholarship to pay for it, it’s off to CUNY I go.
And, you know what, he also just guilted me by saying that I can graduate in four years from a CUNY and pay less than what my parents would pay if they paid full tuition at my (private high) school for one year? They don’t, as I have a merit scholarship, but still… even so, my school must be really expensive for them. I told him I feel really guilty and he told me don’t worry about it, but…</p>
<p>scmom thank you so much! Everything is appreciated. I think my dad is mediating and there will be minimal college talk until I hear from my top schools</p>