<p>I might just be too impatient because I haven't even been at college for 2 weeks...
However, one worry in the back of my mind is that I don't have friends. For the last two weeks I've hung out with lots of different people, including kids in my dorm. However, I don't have people that I do stuff with at any time, its more spontaneous. IE: I don't eat lunch with the same people everyday. I've thought about this a few times and I think I might just be too impatient, but it seems like most other people have friends that they do stuff with all the time, while the people I do stuff with are more in the gray area between friends and acquaintances. Any comments or advice would be appreciated thanks!</p>
<p>Yea, I'm in the same situation as you. Except I usually eat alone.</p>
<p>your impatient, it takes some time to find a good set of people. most people come to school with their friends from HS. If you didint, Like i didnt it takes some time.
youl be fine.</p>
<p>Have you tried asking someone you would like to know better to meet you for lunch? to go work out? head to the "Zoo" to study (what we used to call the reading room -- haha- at the library bc it was so social), to go to a party on campus? Maybe there are others who are waiting for an invite?</p>
<p>When you do go somewhere with someone, you could suggest one of the above as a follow up? </p>
<p>What clubs/orgs have you joined? (Screamin' Demons is always good for group fun at ballgames.) It's always easier to get to know someone by doing something alongside her/him.</p>
<p>I was lucky to have a freshman hall with some girls (not me) who said, anyone for dinner, we're leaving the hall at 5 -- that way anyone could come if she wanted -- or not. It turned out that my freshmen hallmates (at your school) became some of my best friends in life, but there were some icebreaking times to get through. So hang in there!</p>
<p>what about your roomie? any friendship potential there?</p>
<p>You go to Wake, right? It took me a long while to make a group of friends too (I think it can be a little harder sometimes if you're don't fulfill the stereotype of the typical "Wake kid" - I don't). I didn't really mesh with people on my hall very well, either...they were all loud party girls...</p>
<p>But the most important thing, I think, is to GET INVOLVED. Go to the activities fair tomorrow afternoon and pick out a few clubs that look interesting and attend their meetings. Most of my friends are from extracurriculars that I'm in, so that might be one place you need to look.</p>
<p>Feel free to PM me if you need anything else.</p>
<p>I think I made my situation more dire than it is. The problem isn't socializing per se. It is that I don't know if I have any true friends, but I thought about this a little bit and I figure that you can't find true friends in a week or two. It will just come about naturally. Thanks everyone! I'm just a very impatient person. Even waiting for responses I refreshed for the first 10 minutes.</p>
<p>And yes juba I am going to the activities fair. I'm definetly doing student government, model UN and and IM. I might do ultimate or ballroomdancing.</p>
<p>I just sent you a PM.</p>
<p>I was lucky enough to have met some nice people at my orientation in June, so when I moved in over the weekend, I already knew some people. We had friended each other on myspace, so we had exchanged room/building assignments. I've also gotten to know some people in my classes as well. You'll be okay, it takes time.</p>
<p>i think you might be slightly over reacting a little bit..i mean friendships need time to develop and youve only been at school for 2 weeks you have your whole college experience in front of you i mean take hs for an example you didnt make some of your best friendships right away i mean my best friend we didnt become good friends till after freshman year in HS but over time i think you will get close to a group it probably just takes time for everybody to open up, adjust, it can be all overwhelming at once.</p>
<p>if you suddenly had someone who was "like bessestest friends, bff" after a week, that would be kind of creepy, don't you think</p>
<p>as for lunch, people are on different schedules, etc, and soon rhythyms will start to appear and the parts will fall into place</p>
<p>so chill, don't feel so "desperate" and just be open, and don't assume if you had lunch with someone on Monday, and they ate with someone else on tuesday, you have been dissed...say, hey, do you guys mind if I join you or just sit some where else...find a big table with extra seats and plop your self down</p>