<p>This past year my friend and I became Insanely close and hung out all the time. We where inseparable almost like we where married. Now we both go to different colleges, my friend goes to the University of Maryland (3 hours from home) and I got to another university (9 hours from home) I am in my second semester of freshman year and absolutely hating it. But I'm so embarrassed that I'm not liking it that I haven't told her or my other two best friends. Since I've been unhappy at my new school I've been more clingy to my old friends than they are with me (because they're happy) I really want to transfer to the University of Maryland because
1) It was originally my second choice
2)Its closer to home
3) I already know 4 people and my good friend.
4) smaller Greek life (I'm not in Greek and at my current school its 41%)
5) more my type of people since closer to home</p>
<p>The Problem is that I don't know how to tell her. Also our other friend who has been very close with her for a long time decided to go to this school and my best friend was upset because she felt like she was following her. This is the big issue, I don't want her to think I'm transferring to follow her. I was thinking of lies to say like I was clinically depressed so my parents wanted me closer to home?
The other problem is what if I transfer and Maryland is not a better fit? What if she thinks I'm following her? I'm not even sure myself honestly if I'm following her all I know is I don't like my current school.</p>
<p>I would not choose a college because my best friend was going there. Both of you might find new friends and end up not spending much time together anyway. I suggest trying to find some activities at your current school that will interest you and help you make new friends. Your second semester hasn’t even started yet – maybe your new friends will be found in your new classes.</p>
<p>I agree with the poster above. Maybe you don’t like your current college because your best friend just isn’t there, which is understandable, but is there anything directly wrong with your current college? Does it not have your major? Is it too expensive? Are the academics too easy/challenging?
I was in the same boat. A close friend of mine and I went to different colleges and I suddenly became slightly obsessed with transferring to her university. Since then, we have both actually grown apart as she is becoming her apparently repressed ‘college self’ (i.e. partying and drinking 24/7).
As the saying goes, the grass is always greener on the other side. I would still include Maryland on the list of schools to transfer to, but don’t be afraid to broaden your horizons. </p>
<p>The college I go to just doesn’t seem like the right fit for me. The people here are very different, and the Greek like is overbearing. I also don’t enjoy the football games, they dress fancy for them which I really don’t like. The reasons I like Mary land besides my friend being there is this
1 the Greek life is smaller
2 way closer to home
3 the people are more like my people (since closer to home)
4 known as a slightly better school academically</p>
<p>I feel like I want to transfer no matter what, and Maryland was originally my second choice. The only thing is is I don’t know how to be honest to my friend that I’m unhappy and transferring to her school without it seeming like I’m following her. Also do you think if by the end of the year im still not happy I should transfer? Or is it not enough time? To camover: what did you end up doing? How did it work out?</p>
<p>If you genuinely like Maryland, you friend aside, then go ahead and send a transfer application. I had to look at it in the perspective as: if I take out my friend(s), could I still be happy here? And I decided that I would still be happy. You’ll probably make new friends at Maryland as long as you’re yourself.
Usually people know within the first semester if they want to transfer or not and to me, it sounds like you need to transfer.
I am transferring next fall to UGA which I now say ‘coincidentally’ a lot of my former friends go to, but I don’t think I’ll be hanging out with them. Of course, if you transfer to Maryland, feel free to connect with your high school friends because they can get you comfortable with your new surroundings and the campus as a whole. But probably by the time you graduate, you’ll likely have a new group of friends.
As for whether it’s been enough time, yes. I knew I wanted to transfer even before my friends got accepted to UGA and I still want to transfer now. Probably like you, I’m trying to transfer as soon as possible!
So, go for Maryland and whatever happens, happens. </p>
<p>Camover, thanks for your advice. What year are you? This is very helpful I feel like I do need to transfer and probably to Maryland. I feel like I am very worried of what my friends will think of me though. </p>
<p>I am currently a first year student and just finished up my first semester. Transferring next fall to UGA. </p>
<p>As for what they’ll think of you, don’t worry about it. If your friends think you’re following them, that’s their problem. As long as you are happy with yourself and your accomplishments, you don’t really need their approval. I know they’re your friends and you care about what they think but, your education and happiness should not rest upon their shoulders. You have mentioned that you like Maryland for reasons outside of your friends such as the smaller Greek life, closer to home, better academics etc. For your friends to think it’s all about them is a bit narcissistic even.
Of course you can still be friends with your high school pals but, I would also let them know that you transferred for yourself and not anyone else because you value your happiness. </p>
<p>If your friend’s reaction becomes a problem for you, I would remind her that Maryland is a large university. As a result, it is highly unlikely that you’ll run into her on a regular basis… unless you actively try to seek each other out. Just remember to do what’s right for you!</p>
<p>Oh, and a little word of advice: Unless you are completely satisfied with the college you currently attend, I would highly recommend that you submit transfer applications to multiple schools. </p>