Transferring and Inferiority Complex...

<p>I have had this complex my entire life, anyone else? I got into a top UC, but I just don't have the "I'm going here no matter what!" mentality at all...</p>

<p>I have the same issue. I don’t feel like I have what it takes to succeed in UCLA. Most, if not all, of the kids at UCLA are the best students in the country. They were the 3.8 gpa+ students in HS who have a resume that makes wall street bankers croak. I’m talking 1k hours of volunteer service, president of 5 clubs, varsity athlete in 7 sports, eaglescout, valedictorian, numerous AP and honors courses under their belt, volunteer firefighter, saved the POTUS from a vulture, etc.</p>

<p>I’m still going to attend though. Maybe I’m a masochist deep down, but who knows? Maybe I will somehow survive and come crawling out with my bachelors in one hand and my kidney in the other.</p>

<p>hahaha, this isn’t helping! I agree though. When I visited, my tour guide started a non-profit for a country I’d never even heard of. It’s like they sit down and think, “okay, country people have never heard of - check”…haha</p>

<p>If it makes you feel better, a lot of students(not all, or even most, I’m sure) who get into UCLA with those kinds of extracurriculars probably don’t care too much about helping others or anything, but only to get in at UCLA. Reading lists of extracurriculars that freshman applicants have gets nauseating, really.</p>

<p>And statistically speaking, transfer students do just as well at UCLA as those who got in as freshman. And from what I’ve heard about students at UCLA, they mostly seem to be nice and fun people who are cool to be around. Socially, the experience at UCLA is said to be pretty damn good.</p>

<p>And remember this: if you didn’t have what it would take to do well at UCLA, you probably wouldn’t have been admitted. Hope that makes you guys feel a little better.</p>

<p>@Cayton‌ @BurntCorpse‌ My brother went to UCLA as a transfer student and went on to attend Columbia for Law School. He told me that it’s much more difficult than community college, but that he was surprised at how lazy the non-transfer students were. He recommends that you set a study schedule and stick to it and also have clear goals and hit the floor running. </p>

<p>@uclahopefultoday‌ </p>

<p>I’ve heard lots of stories like that—transfer students being more hardworking than nontransfers. Interesting, really.</p>

<p>Although it’ll be harder, I think we’ll manage.</p>

<p>I think all of us should start a therapy club at UCLA. </p>

<p>What irks me is that my friend who only got into SJSU out of high school got accepted as transfer into the UC’s he applied for except UCD (I think “overqualified” reason). I mean, yeah I’m happy for him, but he is in an easy major and still manages to CHEAT in all of his classes for A’s at the CCC we’re at. Being a science major, where time invested doesn’t always permit a good grade, this really pissed me off because the whole “you get what you deserve” saying rings in my head, but do we really? I don’t think so. He’ll be attending UCLA, where frankly I don’t think he deserves to be at. I have a different form of inferiority complex I guess since I honestly don’t feel he deserves his admission status, but yeah. End rant.:P</p>

<p>If it’s any consolation, he will be caught eventually. Even if he does cheat his way through college, will he able to hold up the farce at his job? </p>

<p>Cheaters like your friend don’t just stop cheating. It is a habit and that will bite them in the ass sooner or later.</p>

<p>I hate to say it, but I hope so. He’s been caught cheating once already and has failed a class this past quarter for blatantly missing the final because he was “lazy.” It just burns having someone who doesn’t work hard in any way get into the school of your dreams while you’re killing yourself to maintain any hope of getting accepted from a waitlist of another school.</p>

<p>@sj1408</p>

<p>I’d sever any friendships with a person like him, but that’s easy for me to say when I don’t know how good of a friendship you have, but let me say this, people like him are negative, emotionally draining individuals. Instead of giving you positivity and happiness in life, they only fill you with dread and misery. Think about it. You sound miserable because of him. He didn’t do anything to you in particular, but his negative actions have rubbed off on you, which, in turn, has made you negative as a result.</p>

<p>Surrounding yourself with positive individuals is essential, especially during your younger years (i.e. your college years). This is the time you can do some self exploration and find out what type of person you want to be. Letting him, and any other negative nancy, taint it will only leave you with regrets and unhappiness. </p>