Transferring Colleges to be with SO?

I honestly knew I didn’t want to go to the college I chose, but they gave me great FA, it’s surrounded by quiet farm land, and is close enough to home that I can commute and save a heck of a lot of money. My boyfriend received a full ride to not only the school I chose, but a full ride to our state’s top public school. I knew I didn’t want to attend the public school as it’s in the big city with a bunch of people and lots of drinking, etc, but that’s the school he ended up choosing. He didn’t really want to go there either, but the scholarship there gave him free housing as well as tuition while the other did not. We get each other like no one else can. We are basically a team, we do everything together, and agree on everything. While I know time apart strengthens a couple, I really want to transfer to his school and he wants me there with him as well. Not only because he’s there, but the school will give me even better financial aid than my current school. It will cost as much to study there and live on campus as it is costing me just in tuition at my current school.

My mother doesn’t think I should transfer as she thinks I wont like it in the big city, but we don’t always get along so well and getting out of the house would be a good idea. His parents don’t really seem to approve, but they have an interesting way of going about things. I honestly just think they don’t want us together.

Long story short, I am seeing from everywhere “don’t transfer to be with a SO”. Basically I am just looking for someone to say “Hey that doesn’t sound like a horrible idea” even though I know in my head it’s what I want to do and seems like the right thing to do. We aren’t the typical “high school sweetheart couple”. Maybe we are a little naive, but I believe we are very smart and know what we are doing and need to do.

My college roommate transferred to be with her SO and everything was fine. Ended up getting married. You only live once.

Are you sure the school will still give you great aid?

You might not like the big city forever but 3 years while you are young could be fun.

If it costs the same, you can get your major, AND you think you can be happy there even if your relationship doesn’t last, then transfer. Otherwise, don’t.