Hello, So currently I am a Freshmen at a CC. I am taking 17 credits and I hope to maintain a 4.0.
I do not have the best home life and my parents are forcing me to apply to UMD in the Spring of 2019 and I am pretty sure Ill get in. The thing is, I want to apply as a transfer to other schools Fall fo 2019. If I dont listen to them, chances are they wont let me/wont help me with the schools I want to go to in the Fall of 2019.
So, if I do what they ask and Transfer in the Spring do you think it will hinder my chances of getting in somewhere Fall of 2019 at other Universities such as Barnard College?
Or should I just convince them to let me stay for one year.
I do want to get out of that house but I dont want it to hinder my chances of getting into the schools I want fall of 2019.
@TomSrOfBoston
My Parents. Its hard to explain the situation but they would be willing/they would want to (I know thats not what I indicated in my original post), they just want me to try at UMD first.
I would be willing to try, and hey maybe Ill like it. But if I dont would that hurt my chances?
If your parents insist you try UMD (which I assume is a much lower priced option) first then I don’t see where you have a choice regardless of how it may impact your chances at a second transfer. Is there any reason you didn’t start at UMD?
Are you transferring or applying to UMD in Spring?
Transferring multiple times might not be a hindrance, but colleges should take note and wonder why you’re transferring so much in a short period of time.
@happy1
We just fought a lot about where I should do. I wanted to go to NYU (got in) but my parents still insisted on UMD because they have tunnel vision and still see it as the only school that will make them look good as parents.
Even if I had decided on College Park I missed the May 1st deposit deadline and lost lots of money in my scholarships and such
Now you have to live with the fallout of your decision to give up UMD for the fall. Your parent’s don’t have tunnel vision – if money is an issue (and not everyone has $70k/year for college) it is not unreasonable to expect you to start at UMD. The vast majority of students choose their college based at least in part on finances – you are far from alone in this.
In any event you would likely have to explain to Barnard why you were transferring twice in a year and hope for the best. Are you POSITIVE that your parents would support your transferring after only one semester at UMD?
I have no idea whether or not this would look bad. It just doesn’t seem to make sense. A college education is a privilege, and if your parents are paying for it, it is a gift. Find your grateful bone, it’s hopefully in there somewhere. It makes more sense to try UMD at least through sophomore year. If you are miserable, then transfer. Right now you are already planning to transfer and you haven’t even tried UMD yet. You might find yourself surprised and find out that you love it. It’s not worth fighting with your parents. They are offering you a good deal, even if it isn’t the model you want.
@NorthernMom61 The fact that you can even call me ungrateful without fully knowing my situation and how hard it is for me makes me wonder how you treat your own kids and may think its, “normal”. I hope they are okay.
Sorry that it’s tough to communicate with your parents. Do you think they’d be open to a mediator? If not a therapist, a guidance counselor, religious leader, etc? Good luck, hope you like where u end up