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I am curious to know, why does everyone seem so intrigued in having sex at college? cant you get yourself serious and find relationships? when I hear the word sex it makes me think that you just want to have 1 night stands and thats it. this is not life guys, we're all here because we're educated enough, smart, mature, (at least some of us are0 and its not time to mess around. its fine to have some parties here and there, meet people, have some fun, chill, eat good food, find a girl or guy that interests you, but not have 1 nigth stands with anyone. I mean, there are plenty of cute girls on campus more than interested to get to know you for long term basis. having 1 night stands is for the uneducated, for immature people who dont know what having feelings is. Taking a budweiser drink is much better than being a slut thats for sure or any kind of brand drink. I mean, if you want to have fun, you can do so without messing around in a bad way, but in a healthy manner. I honestly prefer going out to parties where i can spend some good time without going overboard in smoking, and drinking, and definitely not use a girl for 1 night no way! I think girls from this forum can understand me, guys would probably say "enjoy the moment" noo thats not the way it is. freshman or transfer students we're better than this! lets not complicate and ruin the world. Lets represent whichever school we go to, have a great education, get a good paying job in the future, travel if you can, weather the storm on this bad economy, get ourselves a good person who would love us (if havent found one already) party here and there, and life will reward us, I guarantee it, but not messing around!
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<p>...wow. </p>
<p>Are you a parent who wandered onto the board and pretended to be a student? </p>
<p>Or are you actually a college student? </p>
<p>OK, if you are, then that's fine. Your worldview is totally legit, but don't assume a moral position and speak as if you know what's right for everybody. And also refrain from assuming that in an ONS, the woman has no agency. As a "girl", I'm going to speak and say that ONSs can be fun for us to, and it's not always a case of a guy using a girl for sex. </p>
<p>That's one of the things I was troubled by in your rant. To prevent this post from turning into a rant too, I'm just going to say my main idea is that sex outside of a committed relationship is not, to everyone, degrading and immoral. It can be fun and exciting and not something you regret or are troubled by. I know that some people on this board will disagree, but I'm only going to offer my perspective and hope that you understand that there is more than one view on this matter, and that the "moral high ground" isn't always the one path that's right for everybody.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, I also wanted to know your reasoning behind your last sentence, in which you implied that "messing around" leads to a life without success, before I see if I want to broach your argument.</p>