UCLA no party scene?

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UCSB, San Diego State, UC Riverside, Cal State Long Beach, CSU Fullerton.</p>

<p>Well, if I do go to UCLA I would surely like to be in a Fraternity, a club(s), a sport, and Marching band!</p>

<p>I would like to have an adequate party-scene, not too crazy, I have a taste for good old dance, eat, and drink (not necessarily alcohol).
Withe a good number of people (not like crazy number, not too few) and all have a kool time, meet some new people and enjoy yourself.</p>

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I would like to have an adequate party-scene, not too crazy, I have a taste for good old dance, eat, and drink (not necessarily alcohol).

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That's a high school description of a "party" :rolleyes:</p>

<p>^That's my description of a party. :)</p>

<p>^ mine is too</p>

<p>what is the "college description of party"</p>

<p>I like techno too</p>

<p>I am curious to know, why does everyone seem so intrigued in having sex at college? cant you get yourself serious and find relationships? when I hear the word sex it makes me think that you just want to have 1 night stands and thats it. this is not life guys, we're all here because we're educated enough, smart, mature, (at least some of us are0 and its not time to mess around. its fine to have some parties here and there, meet people, have some fun, chill, eat good food, find a girl or guy that interests you, but not have 1 nigth stands with anyone. I mean, there are plenty of cute girls on campus more than interested to get to know you for long term basis. having 1 night stands is for the uneducated, for immature people who dont know what having feelings is. Taking a budweiser drink is much better than being a slut thats for sure or any kind of brand drink. I mean, if you want to have fun, you can do so without messing around in a bad way, but in a healthy manner. I honestly prefer going out to parties where i can spend some good time without going overboard in smoking, and drinking, and definitely not use a girl for 1 night no way! I think girls from this forum can understand me, guys would probably say "enjoy the moment" noo thats not the way it is. freshman or transfer students we're better than this! lets not complicate and ruin the world. Lets represent whichever school we go to, have a great education, get a good paying job in the future, travel if you can, weather the storm on this bad economy, get ourselves a good person who would love us (if havent found one already) party here and there, and life will reward us, I guarantee it, but not messing around!</p>

<p>honestly if u guys go to ucla for just sex, and party, thats just sick
there are many of us who want to go to ucla for the education not for the other s***</p>

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I am curious to know, why does everyone seem so intrigued in having sex at college? cant you get yourself serious and find relationships? when I hear the word sex it makes me think that you just want to have 1 night stands and thats it. this is not life guys, we're all here because we're educated enough, smart, mature, (at least some of us are0 and its not time to mess around. its fine to have some parties here and there, meet people, have some fun, chill, eat good food, find a girl or guy that interests you, but not have 1 nigth stands with anyone. I mean, there are plenty of cute girls on campus more than interested to get to know you for long term basis. having 1 night stands is for the uneducated, for immature people who dont know what having feelings is. Taking a budweiser drink is much better than being a slut thats for sure or any kind of brand drink. I mean, if you want to have fun, you can do so without messing around in a bad way, but in a healthy manner. I honestly prefer going out to parties where i can spend some good time without going overboard in smoking, and drinking, and definitely not use a girl for 1 night no way! I think girls from this forum can understand me, guys would probably say "enjoy the moment" noo thats not the way it is. freshman or transfer students we're better than this! lets not complicate and ruin the world. Lets represent whichever school we go to, have a great education, get a good paying job in the future, travel if you can, weather the storm on this bad economy, get ourselves a good person who would love us (if havent found one already) party here and there, and life will reward us, I guarantee it, but not messing around!

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<p>...wow. </p>

<p>Are you a parent who wandered onto the board and pretended to be a student? </p>

<p>Or are you actually a college student? </p>

<p>OK, if you are, then that's fine. Your worldview is totally legit, but don't assume a moral position and speak as if you know what's right for everybody. And also refrain from assuming that in an ONS, the woman has no agency. As a "girl", I'm going to speak and say that ONSs can be fun for us to, and it's not always a case of a guy using a girl for sex. </p>

<p>That's one of the things I was troubled by in your rant. To prevent this post from turning into a rant too, I'm just going to say my main idea is that sex outside of a committed relationship is not, to everyone, degrading and immoral. It can be fun and exciting and not something you regret or are troubled by. I know that some people on this board will disagree, but I'm only going to offer my perspective and hope that you understand that there is more than one view on this matter, and that the "moral high ground" isn't always the one path that's right for everybody.</p>

<p>Oh yeah, I also wanted to know your reasoning behind your last sentence, in which you implied that "messing around" leads to a life without success, before I see if I want to broach your argument.</p>

<p>I respect your way of thinking MrPink first of all yes I am really a college student, I am not a parent, and look the important thing around here is to respect each other ok. I completely disagree with you, but I mean anyone can have their opinions on anything. Like in my life I would never ever have one I mean EVER, I believe firmly in not messing around, and a relationship if you have sex with a guy or girl is to be valued. I mean if you have sex with him/her why dont you have an affair for a long time? Now, if both of you agree then whatever both are similar. But let me ask you something ok if a guy is really calm and very loving, and the girl is wild how would it feel that if the girl left the guy just to be pleased? thats rude and sick. same for guys to girls. If a girl is cute, calm, humble SHE SHOULD NOT BE USED. So here's the reasoning I have although I think its wrong, ONS can only be done people that agree but lets not use others for just pleasure. Personally, i am a guy if a girl would ever use me for sex i am the kind of a person who would consider that being sexual harrasment and depending on the circumstances I could demand her you know that can happen in the united states right? Its more common with girls demanding guys but there are rules that we guys can demand a girl if shes provocative and seductive. I know some of you may think thats being suck but iam being realistic, and yes ONS can happen, but only if the 2 agree. Like MrPink ok your on this forum because your smart this is a free country where anyone can do anything you want you know, I mean if theres a wild guy out there that can turn u on at night and have fun with you I mean by all means perfect. But if its a calm guy who really values his feelings dont ever have fun like that. oright good ways of thinking, and I expect a nice response take care and have lots of fun</p>

<p>^ I don't want to go to college for sex!</p>

<p>I do want to meet girls, guys, teachers, get some long term relationships too! :)</p>

<p>lol....no duh there are parties. where you have a frat scene (even if it is the crap that exists here at ucla) you have a party scene. From personal experience, here's how the party scene works:</p>

<p>The best "parties" are the ones held at the frats, but if you are a guy, it's fairly exclusive. You MUST know some of the brothers or you MUST take like 3 smokin hot girls with you if you wanna get in. From my experience, i usually see the same guys at all events for a specific frat because, well, guys just can't walk in like at other schools like SC or SB.
If you're a girl, it's easy as hell to get in.</p>

<p>Other "parties" are usually small get-togethers with like 10 friends...not really a party but it can be fun and relaxing. These are just based off you're own initiative.</p>

<p>Then there are the "club" events, which i personally don't like so i can't tell you much about</p>

<p>There are also the raves, which i also don't really like</p>

<p>all in all, i think there are a set of ppl who party week after week even into the depths of their important (2nd/3rd) academic years, and these people usually aren't too serious about studying. The VAST MAJORITY of students ive met in my major do NOT party. Contrary to what you might expect, ucla has a student body that is exceptionally focused on education (which is why it is fairly hard to get in here). If you what you want out of your college years is just a blur of drinking and drug use mixed in with unhealthy sex, ucla is probably not the school for you.</p>

<p>overall, the best year to party is your first year (may be your fourth year, but im still a junior so i have no idea). i can tell you that after my first year, i actually got tired of the party scene because, well, it gets boring. May be it's just me, but i just don't like getting drunk for the hell of it anymore unless i have a reason to (end of quarter, good grades, whatever).</p>

<p>hey bruinboy you make some very good points but something I would say is that to not say that parties get boring, it really depends if you go all out and to be honest thats not the way to go. oright so theres 7 days a week if you party every single day because you want to enjoy the moment, you will warn yourself out. Perhaps some balancing will keep you alive, and yeah I get what your saying. personally, I dont think anything can get boring you just have to make an effort to make everything fun. In my opinion, if you have the opportunity to party all 4 years go for it, not just freshman or senior year that would just mean that you got warned out but do it calmly, and patiently you know and you'll see that you wont find it boring. but if you drink excessively then thats a problem. Maybe easy for me to say because i am a calm person and like to party ocassionally, and not be all that wild, but I always find parties fun and its nice to enjoy yourself and take away the stress a bit. think about it in like a relationship kind of sense: romance and passion. oright if you are ONLY passionate which means intense, wild, and super fast, trust em i dont care how much smack you talk and think your the best guy in finding relationships you will get yourself warned out. But if you got a chemistry that combines romance, softness, and sweetness with some passion and intensity that will make it super great and longlasting. I know this isnt about parties, but i think you get hat iam saying. oright let me know what you think</p>

<p>Holy crap! I hate reading your posts, chesserforlife. </p>

<p>It's "worn" out, not... warned out :/ </p>

<p>Also, how did you steer this thread over to your "calming" relationships again? I don't understand. Are you trying to find a girlfriend on CC or something? </p>

<p>Anyway, parties. Frat parties, clubbing, tiny dorm parties, chill apartment parties - it all depends on the people you're with. I'm always down to drink with the people I normally get drunk with. </p>

<p>I don't even know what this thread is about anymore.</p>

<p>was he the idiot who posted a long time ago about how he has girl problems when in fact he really doesnt and has no friends at all?</p>

<p>First time poster, figured to chime in. I was a UCLA Tour Guide from '98 - '00 and just wanted to clarify a couple things.</p>

<p>First and foremost, as has already been posted on here, your experience at UCLA, as with any other university, is what you "make of it". It sounds very cliche-ish, but it's the truth of the matter. You will find that UCLA has a wide base of students-- Those that take their education extremely seriously, those that balance it with partying as time permits, and then those that schedule their class schedule around their social/party life. </p>

<p>It goes without saying that upon entering college, you're placed in a situation wherein learning how to manage your studies and social life are components that are part of the entire 'college experience'. Having said that, given that UCLA is a highly competitive school to get into, and that it's based in Los Angeles (Read: on Sunset Blvd) you're going to find that one of the best aspects of attending a top notch institution in a major metropolis as LA you're going to find yourself with a plethora of opportunities in regard to your academic and social life. It falls upon each individual how he/she deals with the situation. </p>

<p>As a tour guide, our prime responsibility was/is to give you a glimpse as to what UCLA has to offer you, the potential applicant. The Tour Guide program is under the umbrella of UARS (Undergraduate Admissions & Relations w/ Schools) as such, the emphasis is to have guides representing the various type of students that the university fosters, and as such, each experience is different. I've been removed from UCLA for a few years, having graduated back in '01, however, I can say that the constant that remains is that each and every Tour Guide signs up to be a guide because of our love for our university. I doubt that you'd ever encounter a tour guide that would tell that UCLA is a "non stop party" because that it is not, and UCLA does not cater to that caliber of student. As has already been posted on here, there are schools that are better known for their 'extracurriculars' and if that's the interest of the individual student, then so be it. </p>

<p>Myself, I was always one of those students that was able to manage his studies and his partying. Most of the partying that I did was those parties that Frats hosted in clubs in/around Los Angeles, not necessarily at frat houses/on campus. Each experience is different. In my years as a tour guide I was never asked about the UCLA party scene, nor did I bring it up. As far as that goes, we do/did talk about the social aspect of UCLA and all the opportunities that abound, but given that most of these tours are with either parents or High School counselors, I highly doubt that they would care to know about the UCLA party scene for if such is your interest, there are plenty schools out there to quench that 'thirst'.</p>

<p>Dear Jade Li,
I have been at UCLA for almost 2 years now. Every Thursday night I try not to stay in the Residential hall elevators for too long for fear that I might get inebriated and sex-crazed by the abundant amounts of alcohol and pheromones breathed and perspired, respectively, by packs of frat boys and sorority girl. This is a dry campus in the sense that it hardly rains here, however, alcohol flows like the freakin Zambezi river. And trust me, no one tries to dam that river up. You have to be a raging drunk to get the attention of residential or campus authorities. And your punishment is a “write-up,” a slap on the wrist, the same thing you get when you make too much noise.</p>

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<p>Even though you bumped a 2 year old thread; I had a good laugh.</p>

<p>The posts in the beginning of this post were small and to the point, and till the third, everyone has started posting their theses.</p>