<p>Odd, this: Some posters argue not only that “everyone is doing it” to explain their behavior, but also that “if you aren’t doing it, too, you aren’t getting the college experience/you are foolish/you are missing out on a balanced life.”</p>
<p>And here’s another odd bit of conversation–
Mom, who has known her son for 18 years and 9 months, implies her son is not seeking casual sex.
Reply 1 (from someone who has never met the kid and doesn’t even know his name): He’s lying.
Reply 2 (ditto): …and mom should just accept it.</p>
<p>I believe this thread got TOO out of hand. UNC is a humongous school, it is room for everyone, just doing their own thing.
If your for just doing studies and having safe partying, you can do it.
If you want to do other things…do that too.
Your options are not limited.
The college life does not make you, you make the college life.
Btw as a non-neutral side note, I think some of these people are exaggerating a bit anyway…</p>
<p>The key word here is some…and in reality that number is pretty small…most are very good organizations with very good people. Overall the Greek system at UNC is very tame when compared to that at most other more “southern” schools…like Bama, Tennessee, Ole Miss and South Carolina…where being Greek is inculcated into the culture and literally drives the social scene.</p>
<p>Just one example…the IFC and PanHel are not even integrated at South Carolina and they fight very hard to keep it that way…it’s still the 50s and 60s there folks.</p>
<p>It looks like the posts talking about hooking up and telling LadyD to “chill out” are coming from the high school students who aren’t even at UNC yet. You guys might be a little surprised by how much time you actually have to spend studying. Partying and hook ups can be found at all college campuses - even back in the old days. It’s there, but not required. </p>
<p>LadyD - There are so many different types of students at UNC, your son will find the right group for him.</p>
<p>I was merely pointing out that only a few houses at UNC are as you described and everybody knows which ones they are…the rest are far better and ALL are lightweight when compared to many other schools…that and the fact that the Greek system is not an issue at UNC.</p>
<p>As I may have mentioned (we old geezeresses repeat ourselves a lot), one of my colleagues has a VERY gifted daughter who currently attends UNC. This girl and her BF are self-confessedly “nerdy”; the girl is also extremely shy. Yet she has thrived at UNC, both socially and academically. My colleague constantly assures me that UNC is so diverse, in so many ways, that anyone can fit in. Thanks for confirming this (and for disspelling my fears).</p>
<p>My colleague’s daughter is very involved with the Newman Center, which seems to be large and active. My son looks forward to getting involved there, too, to the extent that his course schedule permits.</p>
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