<p>thanks for the update, BAD,
Most of us have children who have done some things that would bring dishonor to them and to their school at one time or another. </p>
<p>It was generous of you to share, within limits, this story with parents on this board. You took in a wide range of parental reactions with grace.</p>
<p>I hope your daughter's college career is extremely fulfilling for her.</p>
<p>Bay Area Dad:</p>
<p>You mention above that "But we still hold our breath, and that may never change." </p>
<p>Isn't that the case for all of us parents? It varies from moment to moment and the breath may be deeper or shallower but in the long run for me, the definition of parental stress is that you hold your breath and hope for the best - be it when they get in trouble or even normal life events like sending them off for that first day of kindergarten, that first date, the SATs, the first day at work, the first drop at college, their wedding day, etc.? It doesn't ever change - all we can do is raise them as best we can, teach them all that we know, and hope for the best.</p>
<p>Regardless, I am so glad that things are back on the right course for your daughter and that she is getting a fresh start in a new place. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, it has helped me - and I am sure it will help others in the future.</p>
<p>BayareaDad, thanks so much for the updates. You win father of the year in my book for the way that you handled this detour and for your attitude with your D now. Best of luck to you. I assume she will come home for the holiday break, and if so, I hope that you all will have a wonderful time with no need to hold your breath for at least a couple of days. (As a frequent breath-holder with my S, I know this would be the best gift she could give you guys.)</p>
<p>As she continues to exhibit appropriate behaviour and make good choices, you will hold your breathe less and less, but give that a year or two before your subconscious believes what your eyes see ;)</p>
<p>Bravo! So glad that everything worked out for your D and your family, BAD. Thank you for the update. All the best.</p>
<p>Really appreciate the update. Hopefully the sorority will give you D a sense of community and turn out to be helpful.</p>
<p>Bay Area Dad- So happy to hear that things are working out well. Thanks for letting us know.</p>