Well, in my book, it’s certainly crappy role-modeling if, in the course of wanting your child to be the best she can be, you resort to trying to make sure your child is always #1, because that effort will likely result in you and your child having to destroy the competition as much as possible. (And that describes accurately the dynamics of some of these hyper-competitive environments.)
What a world.
(Addressed to everyone, not one particular person.)