Was My Father Out of Line?

College Life
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<p>Not really. It sounds like normal, although annoying, parent behavior to me. I didn’t see anything “out of line” about the conversation at all…except for your rude response to him. If he keeps bugging you about it, just tell him you don’t wanna talk about it & that you’re fine with no friends.</p>

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<p>Your father wasnt out of line. Ask a behavioral scientist, nuerologist or anthropologist and they’ll all tell you that having no friends is a bad sign. Having no friends could be a sign that a person is a sociopath or even has a medical illness. People are neurologically wired to seek friends. It’s nothing to brush away lightly.
If I had a son and he told me he had no friends, I would be worried too. Because that essentially means that when he enters the real world he has absolutely no one he can rely on in any situation.</p>

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<p>Uh, no. You need friends. People don’t bite. I promise.</p>

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<p>You know, the one who gave you an A-? :)</p>

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<p>For real though, I hope I don’t get banned for that one, but I couldn’t resist.</p>

<p>Anyway, just because DreamingBig is in this same predicament, this just tells me I need to go out and make 5 friends and possibly get a girlfriend.</p>

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<p>@holden888</p>

<p>says the kid who’s username is “holden.”</p>

<p>Get some friends op, even if just to please your old man. Life is lonely without them.</p>

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<p>“Do you think he was a little bit out of line for being critical of me over something so ridiculous?”</p>

<p>Having friends is not “ridiculous”. Clearly he’s trying to look out for you, since you have no friends who will. Finding friends is hard for everyone, but it’s worth the effort!!</p>

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<p> The fact that people here think that having friends is not important blows my mind. </p>

<p>seriously lol…</p>

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<p>It really isn’t important. You can make it in this world with or without friends.</p>

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I don’t recall ever confronting him. :D</p>

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<p>I don’t know how anyone could manage or want to go through life without friends. I understand that people value different things, but I believe that I am incapable of understanding that. It’s also kind of weird that this thread (and threads like it) are basically connecting with others and validating each other about not having any friends. I mean I know this is a ■■■■■ thread but still. It’s weird. If you’re as okay with being alone as you say, then you shouldn’t need to talk about that with anyone, imo.</p>

<p>But I pretty much base my entire self-concept on being a good friend, so friends are obviously important to me. Other people are perfectly allowed to value others things, I know that, but I can’t understand not having or wanting any friends. No logic or explanations will make me understand.</p>

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<p>You’re making progress, RoxSox. Acceptance is the first step to recovery…</p>

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<p>your response to your father saying those things indicates that maybe you do care about not having friends (if you didn’t care, if you weren’t sensitive to the topic, you probably wouldn’t have made this thread). I’m not saying, btw, that you said you didn’t care; you haven’t said that as far as I know. Maybe it’s a bit sad sometimes so you tell yourself that it doesn’t really matter, that you can live fine with or without friends - and maybe that’s true - but still, maybe you would rather have friends even so. it’s understandable to say you don’t want the thing though, because then you don’t have to acknowledge wanting something that might be difficult to get (which is a hard pace to be in).</p>

<p>it is like the fable with the fox and the grapes I think it is. the fox thinks the grapes are probably sour because he can’t get them (this is an example of resolving cognitive dissonance).</p>

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<p>How are going to network & build relationships without friends?</p>

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<p>Honestly just sounds to me like he was concerned about you and being a good parent. Was he blunt? Yes, but sometimes you have to be blunt in certain situations and i’d say that this is one of them. If you don’t have friends and you’re happy thats your business, but it seems to me like you should at least try to get out of your house a little more.</p>

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<p>Make friends bro.</p>

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<p>You can make it without friends if you are a functioning sociopath, yes.</p>

<p>Otherwise you need friends.</p>

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<p>**** friends!</p>

<p>Being a loner is where it’s at!</p>

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<p>Even when you have friends, they sometimes get out of line. My conversation with my dad from last week.</p>

<p>Dad: “So where were you last night?”
Me: “I was at a party.”
Dad: “How was it?”
Me: “It was alright.”
Dad: “What’d y’all do?”
I was like: “*** IS WRONG WITH YOU! WHAT DO YOU THINK PEOPLE DO AT PARTIES?”
Me (for real): “We had fun.”</p>

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<p>^ Oh wow, that’s exact conversation with my parents after I get back from a party. Also, my dad likes to ask if we had anything to drink. Ya dad, of course we didn’t lol.</p>

<p>To the OP: Forget college, you already failed in life bro. Nice try though, effort - always appreciated.</p>