<p>Pioneer jones- I agree with you, and as boymom so cleverly said to me, it’s special not a “bargain.”
I’d love to get married, but we all have that fear of being hurt or disappointed.</p>
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<p>These are opposites how?</p>
<p>ThisCouldBeHeavn: Shhh…</p>
<p>PioneerJones - my point, exactly…</p>
<p>CPU - that I could make you smile makes me smile (hey, isn’t that a Bieber song?)</p>
<p>TCBHeaven - my point, exactly…</p>
<p>Adults should really stop making condescending assessments of our generation… We are a reflection of their parenting skills, after all. </p>
<p>I think you’ll find a higher concentration of people that don’t believe in marriage than average on this forum because of the personality types that come here. Independent thinkers always question tradition. Marriage isn’t to be left out of that questioning. Also, the generation prior to us had a very high divorce rate. Of course that will influence the way we see the institution of marriage. Not to mention the tension surrounding marriage laws in our nation at this time. Marriage is a different animal than it was 30 years ago. It has evolved and changed a lot. Thinking about these changes and how they relate to our happiness is not selfish.</p>
<p>People try to put us d-down just because we get around.</p>
<p>Boymom- I’m glad I could make YOU smile (and I’m one of the few girls who don’t like Justin beiber :))</p>
<p>I hope you’re not bothered by these comments. Since qdawg is speaking of “parenting skills” the skills my mother used taught me not to disrespect adults, even cyberly.</p>
<p>^She shouldn’t dish it if she can’t take it. My parents raised me to stand up for myself and my peers. I don’t have to sit here and stand for anyone criticizing an entire generation of people based on a small, select group’s personal opinions on a very personal decision. Older than me or not, it is disrespectful to make hasty generalizations and insult entire groups of people because you disagree with someone. </p>
<p>^^HJ, THAT made me smile.</p>
<p>Did your parents also teach you to be the bigger person, even IF (not in this case) the adult is being the immature one? Did your parents teach you to choose your battles - that some things aren’t worth it? If you parents said what boymom said, would you talk to them like you’re talking to her? I sure hope not.</p>
<p>Don’t criticize my parents. That was uncalled for. </p>
<p>My two sentence comment on a discriminatory statement was completely warranted and I stand by it.</p>
<p>Oh gosh. Marriage. When your life ends. Then you become a parent, just like your parents. And then it’s all about your kid(s), your kid(s) going to college, and their life until they get married again.</p>
<p>The wedding is kind of like a last ceremony of (relative) freedom. I think if I ever get married (which is doubtful), I wouldn’t want a white dress or a church wedding. But definitely a big wedding…no point in ending your life with only a few people to witness.</p>
<p>I wasn’t criticizing your parents, I wasn’t raised that way. But since you didn’t say yes…</p>
<p>Randomazn— I actually want a different color dress- but a soft color that looks almost white but it’s not</p>
<p>Didn’t say yes to what? </p>
<p>And I will definitely wear white. I am really big on tradition. I will also be one of the first women in my family to have a nice wedding. Everyone else has a shotgun wedding in the courthouse… But I don’t want to be married in a church. I will if my fiance is religious but I’d prefer something a little different.</p>
<p>So many crossdressers in this thread.</p>
<p>Qdawg— I don’t mean this offensively, but I thought you were a guy for some reason. </p>
<p>What’s a shotgun wedding? I’m going to be married by a justice of the peace.</p>
<p>qdawg - I have 5 kids, I think I can take whatever you’d like to dish out. </p>
<p>Sorry to be so patronizing, preaching, generalizing…</p>
<p>come back and post when you’re the parent - we’ll see what you think then :)</p>
<p>So, wondering if any of you will end up at D’s school -anyone want to post their top pick?</p>
<p>CPU - blush (the color)</p>
<p>Boymom–(:</p>
<p>I don’t have a top pick… More like 9 top picks 
I’m a junior but here goes[in no order after Rutgers]:
MIT
Rutgers
Yale
UMass maybe
RPI
Barnard
Wellesley
NEU
BU</p>
<p>A shotgun wedding is when you are forced to get married because of an accidental pregnancy… </p>
<p>I’m a girl, but I’m not offended that you thought I was a guy. No hard feelings.</p>
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Yeah, that’s pretty much how I see it. Every single one of the 2 dozen or so marriages I’ve been exposed to on a personal level have all ended in divorce, hatred and/or misery. Those that managed to stay together only “do it for the kids” (the most idiotic thing ever) and wind up bitter and angry at themselves, their spouse and even the children. It has nothing to do with fear of commitment (we’re kids, why do we have to commit to anyone?), it has to do with my experiences of the subject. Insanity is repeating the same thing and expecting a different outcome. I am most certainly not insane. No thank you.</p>
<p>S is a junior - who knows where he’ll end up!I’ve heard MIT has quite the party scene… Awesome list - never visited Yale but it was my bro’s favorite (he’s a frosh at Stanford) I think the # is fine - up to each kid - D had 13!
Hopefully a year from now you’ll know where you are going. It’s hard when you don’t & everyone asks you. At least she’ll have her answers in about 6 weeks.</p>