<p>i can't take it anymore, i can't take the cursing, the hitting, i can't do it man, its affecting my mind its killing my academics. Why is God so mean to me ;( so much in my life, I just need someone to talk to</p>
<p>Is there a counselor, sports coach, minister, good friend? neighbor, relative? even your mom or dad? go immediately to your school counselor...that's what they are for. Can you study at a library? stay at school as long a possible....find friends you can study with....but most importantly, talk to someone at school</p>
<p>Sorry you are going through this. Sometimes we adults can't manage to act like adults. Just know that it isn't your fault and you have to distance yourself from it as much as you can. Do you have siblings? Feel free to PM me if you need to vent.</p>
<p>Dude, my parents do the same thing. Just go into your room, turn on some loud linkin park music, open up a text book, and focus your anger into studying so you can get outta there. Well, it's what I do anyways.</p>
<p>limp bizkit does wonders to rage. it's good music to build up adrenaline</p>
<p>oh sorry, lb does not quake rage. my bad, try some melodic nature music (like music tracks about waterfall, streams or singing birds) and just meditate. playing loud music may set set your parents off again, and even perhaps towards you. </p>
<p>i personally would go out and take a walk (don't have such soothing music), making sure to close the door loudly enough so that my parents would hear. some time alone, a bit of exercise and the fresh air can do wonders</p>
<p>good luck to finding a solution :) feel free to pm me as well</p>
<p>i think its made me stronger and tore me up, and i think at a subconcious level it hinders my growth in everyway. too bad this won't happen when i grow up, because me and my childhood friend promised to never hit our kids or do what our parents do</p>
<p>All I did was pray for a divorce and a separation came six years later. Now the divorce papers are rolling and all I can now say is... finally.</p>
<p>But after all, this is me.</p>
<p>Look, the best thing to do is to talk to someone, and hope they get help. That is better than hoping that they divorce...you may not know what will happen. Talk to a teacher or one of your good friends about the situation. Hope all goes well.</p>
<p>aab123 please shutup really, divorce are you kidding me? i am not of american origin and divorce is a hurtful plan 99% of the time, talkign to someone may work i will let things go as they are thx ppl</p>
<p>(did you misread aab123's post?)</p>
<p>what about ur school counselor? my really close friend has a terrible family situation and has found her school counselor to work wonders. she also goes to a psychiatrist 3 times a week which helps her deal with her issues. i hope everything works out for u.</p>
<p>my parents fight, yeah they don't hit, but they fight, no big deal got used to it</p>
<p>same here.......that's y i wanna go away for college, i can't take their ***** anymore. been arguing all their life.</p>
<p>So what happened with this?</p>
<p>"Dude, my parents do the same thing. Just go into your room, turn on some loud linkin park music, open up a text book, and focus your anger into studying so you can get outta there. Well, it's what I do anyways."</p>
<p>Best advice under the circumstances. I would pray that my parents (also similar situation as OP's) would get a divorce but they've been doing for almost 30 years. Even though it's a negative aspect to their life (as an understatement), they've been doing it for so long I think they might actually feel lost without it.</p>
<p>I think the best thing that one can do under the circumstances is to accept that it won't fix itself, and that there's nothing you can do. And as NDirish1989 said, keep in mind that it isn't going to be forever for you.</p>
<p>How accurate do you think the statistics are that say kids that grow up seeing bad marriages also have one?</p>
<p>I wouldn't think that it would matter so much and that it really just depends on the couple itself, but people who grew up with happy parents would definitely have the advantage in that they may know the "secret" to a good marriage.</p>
<p>Zetsui, where are you from? I'm from India.</p>
<p>If it's really bad, just find a way to get out of there as fast as you can.like applying to prep school.or military school. or just induce deafness.and keep reminding yourself it's not you that's makingthem fight.</p>
<p>I am sorry for what you are going through. IF there is violence in your family that could lead to someone being hurt, call the police when your parents fight.</p>
<p>If the fighting is not that bad, then concentrate on doing what you can with your academics and ECs to get out of that hellhole of a home. It is sad, but you can not save your parents. You can, however, save yourself. I speak from experience.</p>
<p>I agree, too, with the people who have suggested that you find a trusted adult to talk to. That can be a big help because you're carrying burdens that are truly not yours.</p>
<p>I am a humble person (doesn't sound humble lol) but i gotta say I have gone through hell in the past few years, i feel as if i have a hole sometimes in my chest sometimes, and i always contemplate past events and failures in my life at night when i am laying down. i have come to the point where i can trust friends, and sometimes aadults, but i keep these kinds of things secret. I always promised to my sister and my best friend when I was a little kid (i made them promise too) that they would never ever hit their kids or wife! And I remember telling them not to forget and that if they broke it they would go to hell! I think it worked ;) I will never do what my parents did, but they are still my parents and I love them PERIOD</p>