<p>So i geuss im no the most popular social type, but i used to be a fat kid and am just now getting fit.</p>
<p>ive really liked this girl in HS who is a senior for a while, but we stopped talking for a while...ive texted her but no replies...i will see her over summer though at a tennis camp
she is going to UCLA next year</p>
<p>here is the heartbreaking part- my friend told me that she is "hooking up" with this other kid...however they just met. also, the kid she is apparently hooking up with is a huge loser and everyones hates him. </p>
<p>could this just be the kid bragging alot? or should i just forget about her completely (i absolutely cant stand slutty girls) I know hooking up can mean anything from coffee to sex, but dont guys brag and play it up alot?</p>
<p>Find out from the horse’s mouth. Confront her about it and ask her why she’s doing this to herself if this is true. Remind her that she needs you.</p>
<p>In this context, hooking up most likely just means dating. I wouldn’t trust your friend 100%, but I think you can accept for certain she’s doing SOMETHING with that other loser that everyone but her hates. If she just met the loser, that’s good. You’ve still got time to win her back! You’ll be spending a lot of time with her at tennis camp so here’s your chance! Just don’t screw it up. A hook-up, whatever it means, is always fleeting.</p>
<p>thats what i think…she is an extremely classy girl according to all her friends so i doubt shes done more than just hang out/date guys. and hookup means different things in different areas. in the northeast, it can mean coffe but what what ive seen on the west coast it almost always means sex</p>
<p>hooking up generally suggests an extra-base hit, if you know what i’m saying.</p>
<p>my suggestion is that you not take this personally, seek to put her out of your life and out of your mind, and to try to move on. there is a very good chance that you built up an image of this girl in your mind which does not correspond to reality. i’ve been there a few times, myself.</p>
<p>you don’t seem to have very much standing to object to how she’s living her life in this situation. it’s best that you simply try to move on.</p>
<p>This doesn’t mean you have to be particularly friendly, though. By callously ignoring you, (someone who, it appears, was being decent, kind, and affectionate) without having the concern or the balls to tell you what’s up, she has disrespected you. You’re entitled to treat her accordingly; coldly and dismissively. </p>
<p>DO NOT, however, seek to punish her for what you feel was being disrespectful. If you go there, you can get into territory classified as ‘d-baggery,’ or worse, ‘harassment.’ Stoic dismissiveness is a better way to go.</p>
<p>Everyone, including the OP, is missing the point.</p>
<p>You texted her, I’m guessing multiple times, and she didn’t respond. It’s over. You’re obsessing over her to the point where it comes off as creepy. You’re way more involved in her life than your communication with her would suggest. She’s hooking up with this guy because she’s attracted to him; she’s not only not hooking up with you, but she’s also not attracted to you.</p>
<p>I agree with BeKindRewind. If she doesn’t reply to you then that means she doesn’t want anything to do with you. Don’t be the type of guy that can’t take a hint.
Just move on and remember that there are many girls out there so don’t obsess over this one</p>
<p>Dreamingbig is living in fantasy land .
Take it from me, leave this girl alone . She will cause you so much drama that it will ruin your life .
Generally if I girl doesn’t text you back the FIRST TIME you text her shes not interested .</p>
<p>I’ve been there man, I’ve wasted time, ended up losing a a great friend and a potential job over some stupid girl that couldn’t figure out what she wanted . 2 years of college have taught me this </p>
<p>If you ever get a girls number, call/text her and she doesn’t text you back the same day just move on .
If a girl likes you she’ll text you randomly, to ask about crap she can google . She’ll stress out and text you 2 times in 2 minutes if she thinks your ignoring her . She’ll make an effort to call u everyday( this can also be the sign of a girl thats just a loser who needs someone to whine to about life, ) Anyway
But right now the OP is delusional, "ohh that guy isn’t as good as me " . </p>
<p>Good luck man, a few years back I was making the same mistakes…</p>
<p>If you are texting her and she isn’t responding, she’s not into you. If a girl likes you, she will always respond to your texts.</p>
<p>“Hooking up” usually refers to going all the way, whether they are dating or not. She may not be dating the guy but she obviously finds him attractive enough to sleep with him.</p>
<p>And lastly, girls don’t care if everyone hates the guy. If she likes him and wants to hook up with him, his reputation won’t matter. Hate to break it to ya but it’s how it goes.</p>
<p>HOWEVER, bear in mind that you don’t know for sure she’s hooking up with another guy. If she seems like a classy girl, then maybe your friend is just pulling that one out of his arse.</p>