<p>That’s it. I’m transferring to BYU! You guys are too sexually explicit for me.</p>
<p>^^^^^^ LOL!</p>
<p>I heard from friends at Texas A&M and MIT that college dating is extremely rare. Hookups/one night stands are common. Students are making out with someone they don’t even know the name of!!!</p>
<p>Ew, MIT? Revenge of the Nerds w/ hookups?</p>
<p>I’m gonna go take a shower. You guys are really scaring me now…</p>
<p>It really depends on the type of people you socialize with, and their individual morals. </p>
<p>Hookups do happen, but not to everybody; don’t feel pressured to hook up with someone just because others are (and more importantly, don’t rush into losing your virginity just because your friends are all losing theirs - it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re making a mature or wise decision). </p>
<p>As for long- term dating, it of course can happen, and it does happen. The best relationships obviously tend to stem from friendships. :)</p>
<p>Wait–I’m sorry, are you assuming that all CC members are virgins going into college?</p>
<p>worse assumptions have been made</p>
<p>@wiz- I’m pretty sure he/she was just referring to the OP. If they’ve never had a bf and they’re not into casual sex, chances are that the OP is a virgin.</p>
<p>Oh, oh, ohhh. I’ve got it now. I mean, this IS CC, so we really shouldn’t be surprised by a general lack of sexual experience</p>
<p>Well I live in Cali and will probably go to a CSU in southern california hopefully the people are as nice as people in the bay area</p>
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<p>It does depend upon the people you hang out with. As you start college, keep in mind that there will be plenty of overly-aggressive guys interested in notches on the bed posts. They particularly look for young women who are inexperienced with alcohol. You just need to look past them, to the quieter guys who may not have as much self-confidence, but who are more interested in relationships.</p>
<p>Quickly, though: has anybody here ever been to a concert? You’ve never seen people make out with people they don’t know? It is, quite frankly, a liberating and incredibly fun experience to do so, but you’re acting as if you’re anthropologists writing a new “Coming of Age in Samoa,” studying suburban teenagers instead of islanders–you’re just completely bewildered by what are completely normal activities.</p>
<p>I may be naive and inexpericened but I’m not dumb enough to fall for guys that taken advantage of girls like that…the only time I drink is new years of I didn’t in 2011 but I will in 2012!</p>
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<p>nah I don’t think I’ve seen that at a concert and I’ve been to a few of them.</p>
<p>maybe it is fun for you, and if it is then by all means do it. it ain’t for me though, I’ve done it once and it seemed weird to me. I’d rather actually get to know a person before getting intimate with them.</p>
<p>^^^That would be an appropriate title for CC kids: "Completely bewildered by what are completely normal activities. "</p>
<p>To answer the question though, “dating” as a form of evaluating a prospective romantic partner through a series of traditionally awkward, socially sanctioned events (usually dinner followed by a clumsy invitation up for “coffee”) is all but dead in college. In fact, I’m not sure if it was ever alive. You have to be remarkably naive to not understand what happens when 20,000 horny 18-22 year-olds all live unsupervised in close proximity. </p>
<p>That isn’t to say that there aren’t a lot of couples in college. There are, but it just forms kind of organically. You have sex with a girl, start spending a lot of time together, and then one day you have that “so I guess we’re going out?” conversation.</p>
<p>There’s definitely a range of relationships. Among freshmen, it’s more popular to go to a party Friday and Saturday night, have something to drink, and hook up with someone. Some people hook up with others they don’t know, some people have a few people they like to hook up with, some people were too drunk to remember.</p>
<p>A few of my freshmen friends (and more of my upperclassmen friends) are in serious relationships, but a large amount of upperclassmen I know continue the hooking up, but at bars and clubs and off-campus parties instead of dorm parties.</p>
<p>Ultimately, the nature of your college relationships will depend on you. If you want casual hook-ups, there are plenty of people into that. If you want a serious relationship, I’m sure you can find someone to date. If you want something in between, that could work, too. Just don’t judge people for not being into the same types of relationships as you.</p>
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That’s certainly one way of doing it. But, at least where I am, many people still do the traditional asking out, dating, getting to know someone, etc. It really just depends on how you want to do things. If someone doesn’t want to have sex with someone they don’t really know, they can still find a relationship and get to know someone first (though obviously there are a great deal of people doing other things).</p>
<p>Caillebotte, I completely agree. As a disclaimer, I’m a senior in high school still, but that’s how I ended up with my last two girlfriends–we hooked up for a while, and then we just kind of threw a label on it. Welcome to dating in the 2010s, CC. It’s not the 1960s anymore. As for the “organically developing” relationship model, it’s definitely true. But I think this is merely an evolution of traditional dating rituals: instead of formally asking out a member of the opposite (or same) sex, men (or women) ask to “hang”; then they hook up, which could mean a myriad of things; then they eventually end up “going steady,” or being, pretty much, exclusive.</p>
<p>Except that ain’t how it is for everybody, lol. </p>
<p>Also, I think that the current hook-up culture actually has its roots in the 60s. Probably the only good things that came out of that era were civil rights and the music.</p>
<p>You think this is a bad thing?</p>
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And the space program. And the Peace Corps. And the Great Society. And increased health policies. And the heart transplant. And the laser. And a series of important diplomatic treaties that paved the way for a lessening of intensity in the Cold War. And much more.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure there will be lots of people who prefer to study instead of going to parties…all the guys I meet at Berkeley were nice and made no sexual gestures…this might be off topic but do lots of college students go to raves I only know a few people in high school that do.I think raves are worse than parties.</p>
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