<p>After having a good first semester at my university, now I am miserable this second semester...to the point where I can hardly get out of bed in the morning. Most of my issues stem from my roommate; we were such good friends, and I expected him to room with me again and he won't. Meanwhile he gets to go to Florida for spring break, with his "frat" friend who will in turn invite him to join his frat leaving me without a "true friend" at this school. I can no longer follow my passion (meteorology) because I don't have enough Math skills, whenever I try to make new friends people ignore me or don't want to have anything to do with me. I have Chest Pain every night, I can't keep up with my work and I feel like I have nobody to talk to. To sum it up I am a "wreck" for the first time in my life, and I need advice from others....and please be nice, I can't take rude comments.</p>
<p>I need suggestions...Do you think I should try transferring? Stick it out? Take a Year Off?</p>
<p>When you transfer, you’re likely to not know a lot of people at the new school, either, so keep that in mind.</p>
<p>Join some clubs or a club sport to get you out of your room. Get out of the dorm to go to the library to study, or if it is warm enough, do your homework outside.</p>
<p>If you feel depressed, you should talk to a counselor at your school’s health services. Usually your student fees will cover at least 10 sessions.</p>
<p>But those things can be remedied. If you only have one true friend, go join some organizations and make some new ones. Your school has to have more people than the ones who just ignored you. And if you need more math skills, develop them. Take classes, and take your time doing homework and working hard.</p>
<p>If you have chest pain every night, perhaps you need to see a doctor.</p>
<p>Yeah it’s probably indigestion. For some reason everyone thinks chest pains = heart attack but if he’s having heart attacks every night then he ought to be selling his body to science since he’s clearly one hardy son of a gun.</p>
<p>I realize this is not a romantic thing, but emotionally it’s really similar to a break up. You’ve focused all your hopes and emotional security on this one friend and now you’re grieving and jealous of his new friend and the plans he’s making that don’t include you. The fact that you have to see him all the time as a roommate doesn’t help.</p>
<p>Maybe understanding it this way will help you to put it into perspective and see that your feelings of sadness are normal. You definitely do need to find your own things to do, but don’t try to rush into another dependent friendship with someone else and expect them to fulfill most of your social needs. Try to develop a range of casual friends, do distracting fun things, and definitely see a counselor there for some sessions and support.</p>
<p>Improving your math skills sounds like another good thing to do. Good luck and realize, this will definitely get better in time and you’ll find your way.</p>
<p>It really is up to you. I would only transfer if you find a new major at a new school that has a better program than your current one. Don’t transfer just because of your current one because you can get a new roommate next semester. Dont give up just because of your math skills. Try getting help see if your school has a help center because those will help alot or try getting study groups together no one will say no to a new study partner.</p>