<p>Daughter 1 is a soph at a high ranked public university. Was a merit scholarship student first year, had a rough year healthwise and her gpa suffered. This year better but she told me today she is thinking of transferring to get closer to home and to restart her gpa.....</p>
<p>In the meantime, daughter 2, a senior, ended her h.s. with a bang, nat'l merit finalist, blah blah blah, applied to 3 schools, first choice RICE she did not get in but got into 2 and 3 choices. The school my other daughter is at is one of the schools she got in. Very highly rated public univ. May be 1 or2 depending on the list. THis daughter has had health issues, migraines,etc.</p>
<p>SO MY DELIMMA, Daughter 2 announced Sat. she had been thinking and is thinking she will go to school where daughter 1 is. I was surprised as we were waiting to hear about honors program at school 2 which i think is a good option. I guess once she said which way she was leaning, I began questioning it....tried not to...but i did want her to wait to consider the honors program.</p>
<p>NOW, daughter 1's idea to transfer was not known to me until Sat after Daughter 2 announced. Should i say more to daughter 2 about the sibling possibly transferring from that school....or keep my mouth shut. It is a 5-6 hr trip. </p>
<p>Her deadline to change school choice for national merit is the 22nd. so we are a week away. I think she feels if she had known all this she might have applied to different schools....</p>
<p>I need advice, I can't sleep or eat right now...i feel so badly for second daughter that all these new factors are coming in.</p>
<p>finances are not an issue, she has aid from both schools.</p>
<p>I don't understand why you just don't lay everything out to all parties involved so everyone is on the same page. It might make a difference or it might not but I don't see a downside.</p>
<p>If D2 is thinking of going to the same uni as D1 because it might be fun to have a sib there, then she needs to know that D1 is thinking of transferring. Perhaps D1 should talk to D2 about the college and her reasons for possibly wanting to transfer. I don't think whether her sister is there should be a big part of the decision one way or the other. D2 should choose where she wants to go to college as though big sis weren't in the picture. ( I don't see how this knowledge would have affected where she chose to apply, only where she might want to attend.)</p>
<p>Ultimately, mom, it's your daughter's decision and her dilemma --- if it even is one --- and you shouldn't be losing your own sleep over it.</p>
<p>Have them email each other immediately so each can know what is the situation. Get out of the middle. They'll figure out what to do together. Tell them you're on hand to advise them, if need be.</p>
<p>You are lucky to have two college-material daughters. Control less, enjoy more, get your beauty sleep.</p>
<p>If one finds out you knew about the other and didn't advise her, she could be very upset with YOU for holding on to key information.</p>
<p>I agree with what everyone else has said. Your second daughter should know about your first daughter so they can have a talk. My daughter will be attending the school my son is trying to transfer from. She is fully aware of what he does not like about the school. She talked to other students who are there and has decided it is the best place for her, even though it may not be the best for him. Good luck.</p>
<p>THanks, I will talk to d2 this am and suggest they talk or im today. I do not know if she would have applied if d1 was not there....that is what she is frustrated about. She had no idea d1 was thinking of transferring. (she is kind of in her own little world) </p>
<p>I just encourage them to think about where they would fit in....academically and socially. If i was making the decision I would probably want her closer...and if she gets in the honors program at our state school, it would be like an ivey but an hour away if she had a med. issue.</p>