<p>I am a sophomore at a small LAC in SC. When I arrived at school last year, I attended orientation activities. I did stuff with my roommate to try to bond with her. I talked to other girls on my hall. I went to college-sponsored social events and parties at the fraternity houses. I got an on-campus job. I joined several clubs that interested me (newspaper, College Democrats, Students for Environmental Education, Gay/Straight Alliance, Freshman Honors Seminar). I went to social events for students in my major.</p>
<p>I thought I was doing all the right things. But here I am, half-way through my sophomore year, and I don't feel like I have any close friends.</p>
<p>The time came around last year for signing up for housing, and I had no roommate. All the girls I knew had paired up, and I couldn't find anyone to live with. Unable to face this complete rejection, I applied for the international dorm and live with an international roommate. I have always been interested in international issues, and I figured I would enjoy living there. However, I couldn't help but feel left out as everyone else was happily talking about how excited they were about the next school year with their new roommates, when I didn't have one.</p>
<p>Fast forward to now: I hate living in the international dorm. My international roommate and I really just haven't clicked, and that's not for lack of trying. The facilities are pretty awful--For example, I end up swimming by the end of my shower because of a slow drain which is apparently impossible to fix. The other students in my dorm, who are very conservative and religious, are just so unlike me. Actually, most all of the students at my school seem so unlike me. They are preppy, conservative, religious, only concerned with partying and other petty things. (Don't get me wrong, I don't mind a little bit of social drinking--It's just the obnoxious binge drinking till you puke that offends me.) I really have tried to get to know other people, but it seems like we have so little in common, and I feel like most of them don't like me all that much because I'm so different.</p>
<p>Now spring is coming quickly and I'm facing another year without a roommate. I don't think I can stand another year in the international dorm, and I have virtually no possibilities for a roommate. The few "friends" I have are not close to me. We occasionally hang out or eat together, but it's not the close relationship I would like, though I feel like I have tried really hard to strengthen our relationship. Plus they are all juniors, and planning to live in senior housing next year. I felt like I was really getting somewhere with this one girl that lives down the hall from me, but then she started complaining that she couldn't decide which group of friends to live with in senior housing next year, so now I feel like asking her to room with me will just lead to rejection. I could just see if the college can place me with a random roommate next year, but don't even know if they would, and it would be so nice to get to live with a friend. Plus, I could not participate in my school's housing registration process without a roommate, which would mean that I could not pick which dorm I got to live in, and I would be left with the most undesirable rooms.</p>
<p>I'm even considering transferring over the issue, even though I'm happy with the intellectual aspects of my college, and I am paying virtually nothing to go there. (<a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/transfer-students/602811-thinking-transferring.html%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/transfer-students/602811-thinking-transferring.html</a>) I just wonder if things would be the same pretty much everywhere I go and if people will be the same everywhere. Is it worth losing my scholarship money to transfer somewhere else? Or should I just tough it out and hope that things work out for the best?</p>