<p>undecided - I think it's wonderful that you want to help your brother "fix" whatever is wrong in his life. And you can certainly collect some ideas that might help accomplish this. But you can't make him shower and you can't make him study and you can't make him participate in therapy and you can't make him find more productive uses for his time. Until your brother shows some interest in changing his life, passive support may be the best you can do for him (and for your family).</p>