<p>Two of the school prefects are going out at my school. After the ACT (or was it the SATs) the girl was looking really worn out and the guy was comforting her.
A good friend of mine receives tutoring and tennis coaching from her (to-be senior) boyfriend. He helps and encourages her to study and she comforts him when he’s under a lot of stress.
In both cases, I don’t feel that there is a lot of unwanted distraction. They give each other support. And if they really are “distractions” then maybe distractions are a huge part of what shape you into a mature/wise person?</p>
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Lawl, but then you can’t really learn from past experiences either, can you?</p>
<p>But you can’t automatically write out someone with no dating experience as “no knowing how to handle it”</p>
<p>There’s also the issue if being ugly as s***, which I’m surprised no one has mentioned. Such is the case with me, except that I have really high standards that I’m not lowering. So, I seem destined to live a cynical, bitter existence until college…</p>
<p>That is true as well, I am ugly as s***. quite depressing.</p>
<p>My standards for looks are pretty high, but they can be lower if the person has a great personality/ we have similar interests. If we have nothing in common, they have to look good.</p>
<p>^ That’s not a nice thing to say about yourself!</p>
<p>that it true. I also am not really into gorgeous guys, all of them are always full of himself. atleast the ones i meet.</p>
<p>^ Gorgeous people are kind of conceited, I mean sometimes I just to yell at one of them " You aren’t even that pretty *****" … LOL :D</p>
<p>I dated someone a month freshman year of high school (he was a Jr that I knew from forensics and went to a private all guys high school). It turned out horrible.
We broke up and I had a huge crush on another one of his classmates whom I was very good friends with, from April to August of that year. I was very close with his best friend who was having a huge party that July (the best friend knew my crush). He tried to get us together that night, but honestly I could the guy wasn’t interested in being anymore than friends. I went home feeling utterly defeated and decided I was done with guys. An AP student and competitive debater I figured It was better; Less distractions in my life.
On the ride home, I got a text message from a friend who was a grade above me. He was a complete techie, extremely good with computers and we had recently become better friends. His family owned a vacation home near mine. Having just helped me purchase a new laptop, he wanted to ask how it was working. Somehow we got on the conversation of what happened that night and I, in a state of frustration and exhaustion, told him the whole story. He was nice about it, tried to be comforting. The next morning, flustered I had spilled my personal life to someone other than a close friend, I hastily apologized.
We continued to talk for most of the summer and became much better friends. That August, he greeted me off the ferry dock as we arrived for a weekend of vacation. The final night there on the beach under the stars, he admitted to having a huge crush on me.
I hadn’t realized it until then, but I felt the same way. He wasn’t an All-State level saxophone player or a star track runner and nationally ranked debater, but he was a great guy: bright, funny, cute and dorky. Sure he wasn’t perfect- but neither was (and am) I.</p>
<p>When I finally gave up looking, It seemed I had found exactly what I had been searching for.</p>
<p>We’ve been dating for ten months. He helps me calm down if I’m overly stressed and vice versa. Being that he’s a grade above me, he’s great with school advice. And he’s helped me through a very difficult time due to some major family issues.</p>
<p>I think dating in high school is about preparing for future, more mature relationships that will come later in life. That’s why they say young love never lasts. Teenagers don’t know how to have a proper relationship, which is why they kind of… practice during high school.</p>
<p>^ My opinion.</p>
<p>Are you people being facetious, calling yourselves “ugly as s***?”</p>
<p>What a terrible thing to say about yourself!</p>
<p>It’s only a bad thing if they think s*** is actually ugly.</p>
<p>Oh, do you think it’s attractive?</p>
<p>musicgeek1995: your story is really cute, congrats! (:</p>
<p>and i am not being facetious, i honestly feel disgusting. I mean whenever I walk by a mirror I close my eyes because I dont wanna look. And I make sure I have the smallest mirror so I dont have to see to much of myself when I’m getting ready. I’m just not attractive.It’s something I have to live with I guess.</p>
<p>I’ve been called the fifth member of the Beatles and a Demetri Martin look-alike. Lol. In a world of processed noses and six-pack abs, I don’t stand a chance. </p>
<p>I’ve been called “cute” out of pity, but we all know that girls aren’t sexually attracted to “cute” guys, but to hot guys. Being called “cute” is like having your mom call you handsome. Lol</p>
<p>Hmm, maybe this is why I want to study genetics… to create a future where no one has to look like me. :P</p>
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Demetri Martin looks kind of like Dustin Hoffman. It’s probably all in the nose. I don’t see how being the fifth member of the Beatles would be a bad thing.</p>
<p>Yea, it’s all the nose. It’s difficult to mitigate the effects of a bumpy nose on one’s physical appearance. I’m not really interested in spending 5,000+ bucks to get rid of it. I never broke it or anything, it just turned out this way. Rough.</p>
<p>Awww I highly doubt either of you are that ugly!!! Stop being modest haha.</p>
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<p>@Wiscongene - That is just not true. There is a clear distinction between “hot” and “cute,” at least in my mind, and I would definitely go for a cute guy. It’s not (always?) a pity statement.</p>
<p>As for the other users saying they aren’t interested in gorgeous people…truthfully, standards are so different in this world that what you find gorgeous is often times not what most people find gorgeous. I would feel free to pursue, simply because many times (in my experience) the extremely physically attractive people are “average” to others. Granted, if you’re only interested in the classically handsome types that appeal to almost everyone…I can see how that could be a problem.</p>
<p>everyone is beautiful in their own way, so I dont judge. everyone has someone that is attracted to him.</p>