<p>fhimas:</p>
<p>Well, as the father of an African-American child, perhaps I can give you a few insights.</p>
<p>First off, he was very privileged. We're not rich, but we're comfortable and we live in a wealthy and education-conscious community. He was raised in a community of scholars, as well, so intellectual life was as natural as breathing to him. Our home uses a rich vocabulary, is absolutely brimming over with books of all kinds, and my wife and I made sure that he had the best instruction from us or others when he needed it.</p>
<p>But his life was still different from those of my other children in very significant ways. For one thing, people would just come right out and ask, right in front of him, if the "child" was ours. And that wasn't all. In a myriad of subtle ways, he was made to understand and never forget that he was different from everyone else. When he began to do well in swimming, the local press made a big deal out of the fact that he's black. And then, there were the whispers, some of them audible, when we were standing in line or otherwise in a crowd.</p>
<p>When he was 13, he was stopped by the police while walking from school to a friend's house. He was just walking, but he didn't "fit in." So, they questioned him and then called me out of a class to check his story. When he learned to drive, his driving instructor told him he would be pulled over a lot and, in fact, he was. He just didn't fit the profile of an upstanding citizen, so we always made sure he had all the appropriate paperwork whenever he drove anywhere.</p>
<p>When prom time came, a parent asked him if it was hard finding a black girl to date in this community. He told her he was taking a white girl. She looked like she'd just eaten a lemon. The woman at the tux shop recommended a white tuxedo because it was "flashier" and would "show off his skin." He played YMCA basketball for a while, but quit when he kept getting told by his coach that he should show the other (white) boys how to jump.</p>
<p>Those are just a few instances among thousands that made his experience very different from that of white kids growing up in white cultures among white people. Affirmative action actually was not a good thing for him. He absolutely had the credentials to attend pretty much any school he wanted to. He decided on a middle-of-the-road school after being told more than once that, with his "background," he would be a shoo-in for Harvard. </p>
<p>He's currently working on a Ph.D. in archeology and, not surprisingly, everyone is surprised to find a black archeologist. They want to know if he will specialize in sub-Saharan Africa. He intends to specialize in underwater archeology, probably in the Med. He's a swimmer, after all.</p>
<p>Would he have added much to classes at his school in sociology, anthropology, cultural anthropology, semantics, communications, and many others? I have no doubt. And he could have done that even had he been a bit less than the top student he was.</p>