<p>This is a tough scenario. </p>
<p>One question, that I might have missed, what is the financial picture for college like? Are you going to be self-pay or will there be FA needed?</p>
<p>I’m sorry you feel you’re in this on your own. A couple thoughts ~ it is completely reasonable for husband to insist on a degree in addition to music. Second, it is not unusual for fathering-to-kick-in at about this age. Many young adult son’s only -now- have a father paying attention. Third, let your son fight his own battles (generally) with Dad. Your son wants something out-of-the-ordinary, so it will be son’s job to prove how much he really wants it. Time to Mother less.</p>
<p>Agree with Kiddie (see Post # 4). Not wise to place all of your DS’s eggs in one basket. Best of luck.</p>