OP, I think it’s just a reaction to the stress of the process. For those kids I’ve heard have their decisions made, I’m truly happy for them, but at the same time, I wish my daughter was settled and her stress reduced.
@beebee3 @runswimyoga I love that advice
@lookingforward Yeah, I suppose that’s true. I feel like I have a perspective that can contribute too, though. I don’t think anything I said is factually untrue.
Facts alone do not constitute wisdom. This thread is not about facts, but irrational feelings, and what to do with them.
@carolinahbrahh - Did you go to college so you could get one job?
^ @inthegarden, how true. The more we experience, the more our perspectives broaden. And with that can come some humility. We’re more open about our foibles, even laugh at ourselves.
@Proudpatriot No, not at all. I went for an education. My perspective changed a bit during recruiting, though. That was the scariest time of my life.
On the latter…that sounds very much like an ex-GF who seems to have a wonderful career as a Pharmacist in a regional hospital with a wonderful income and respected status among her peers…factors which prompted her to follow the Pharmacist path in the first place. However, she found out too late(years after graduating and working) that she’s followed the wrong path for her, but feels trapped due to the fact she excelled in her field, has a great income, and has serious concerns about starting from absolute zero because her education was so specialized that it won’t count for much if she leaves her profession.
Her constant complaining about this without making any resolution to fix or make peace with her career decisions was one of the factors in why she’s an ex. It was literally a topic she’d bring up in every conversation/date I’ve had with her.
Well, I still feel for OP.
Hi everybody. A little update. I’m doing much better. My D was deferred at her ED1, and we had some mourning over that, but she climbed back on the horse eventually and is getting all the applications she never finished (because she was so heart-set for the ED1) into gear. Onward!
@carolinahbrahh Good luck in your job search. There are indeed some companies where they won’t even look at you if you didn’t come out of the right school. I used to work for one of them. I kind of hated it, though–it seemed like everybody got divorces after 2 or 3 years there. I have one particular memory of a consultant kicking his briefcase down the hall in a fit because the copy guy couldn’t xerox his report fast enough to make it into the overnight DHL truck. And then there was a mom who was told she couldn’t leave (at 8pm!) to take her 7-year old trick-or-treating. Luckily, there is more to the world than those companies, and the start-up culture we have now makes everything possible. Keep an open mind. First Bank of Nebraska might be a nice life, eventually.
It is a small number of companies that only will look at grads of a few select colleges. And sometimes that only means that they don’t schedule recruiting visits to other campuses – it does NOT mean they won’t hire grads of other colleges, but extra legwork is required to get noticed. @carolinahbrahh, at some point in your career, you will get dusted by someone who went to a lower ranked school than you did – I guarantee it.
^^^What I saw was that the kid who went to Bentley business school or wherever, while she got hired, she got to sit in a small internal cubicle crunching numbers for years and years, being treated like the support staff, whereas the Harvard or Wharton kid got to go on site with the big boys and (while crunching those same numbers) got promoted up through the ranks via a lot more mentoring, grooming, opportunities, and support. I hate to say it, but at my particular company, Carolina was no Harvard or Wharton and would be stuck with Bentley in that cubicle. So be mindful of that… get your experience and then move on if you aren’t happy at JP Morgan or Goldman Sachs or McKinsey, Bain, or whatever. I know there are other companies that LOVE Carolina, though. IBM! And I agree with @intparent 100%.
But this is the old causation vs correlation thing on CC. The ambitious, savvy kids tend to do well based on their own energies and drives, not simply the name on the diploma. They create a record a record of challenges taken on and successes, before and during college. That’s how they get into a Wharton. They still have to pursue opportunities, have some impact, get through the app and interview process,to get hired. A Bain runs kids through hoops, to get to finals.
According to post#64, the “new” poster is not new at all…
@redpoodles you’re just giving evidence to support what I originally said though. I don’t disagree with anything else you said.
@carolinahbrahh Yes, I did. I was supporting your point, and I SAID I did: “There are indeed some companies…”
I feel like no matter what anyone says, you want to argue with it? Even when they are supporting your point? Why? I’m getting very annoyed.
@redpoodles Haha sorry, I just got confused. I feel like y’all hate me I’m just gonna leave the thread
@redpoodles Did you work at an investment bank?
@SuburbMom wrote:
I totally felt like this when D got rejected from her ED school, and on and off throughout the process as the acceptances have been rolling in for schoolmates. I’ve thought about how I could have “groomed” my child to be a more attractive college applicant by encouraging her to stick with sports, write for the school newspaper, enter competitions, and so on. I have certainly met many parents who have that “future college applicant” mentality about their children from middle school age, and I always scoffed. I still don’t believe in it, but then again those whose parents did this sort of thing might be the ones getting all those great acceptances. I know there are kids who are driven and well-rounded on their own, but you know what I mean. It’s kind of how I feel about parents who seem to groom their daughters for popularity. They put them in dance and cheer but not Lego robotics, buy them the trendy clothes and phones, have expensive birthday parties and lenient rules. But I digress.
I’m not saying any of the kids are going to have happier lives because of where they are going to college, and I am proud of not being a pushy parent and of letting my kid be, well, a kid. But crazy stuff like this can make you really question things.
It’s silly, I know. But we all have silly thoughts like this, it seems!