<p>It should technically be your choice right? Understandbly parents who chip in and the such should have a say too but should they have the power to ultimatly decide what school you endup going to?</p>
<p>I got into my first two choices but my parents are ignoring my wishes and are basically forcing me to go to the school they want me to go to. :(</p>
<p>All I can say is
Its extremely frustating.
:|</p>
<p>I will be choosing, if I can even get into anywhere.</p>
<p>My choice, but the school I want to go to....my dad went there.</p>
<p>My parents are throwing the decision in my hands, mainly because they can't afford to chip in. They are also very supportive and believe I will choose the right school. Whatever school I go to, I have to consider the cost because I have to pay the loans back down the road. Limits the choices, but ultimately it is in my hands.</p>
<p>I get to choose, but I seem to have only applied to schools my parents would want me to.</p>
<p>If they're paying they get the ultimate final say, right or wrong. If they're not paying then under no circumstances should you let them bar you from going to a school you want to go to. Listen to and consider their advice but if they're seriously going to get extremely upset about you choosing to pay your own way at a school they don't like they aren't worth trying to keep happy.</p>
<p>Worked fine for me anyway.</p>
<p>I chose, but only because it was financially possible.</p>
<p>I choose but I know which one my parents want me to go to, and I really want to make them happy....</p>
<p>My parents basically said they'd do whatever they can-- I'd have to recognize the consequences of some decisions versus others.</p>
<p>Some choices I'd come out and they'd be giving me money from my college savings, others I'd be coming out in debt. They supported me the same no matter where I went.</p>
<p>I made my own choices entirely and they couldn't be happier with my choice.</p>
<p>"I got into my first two choices but my parents are ignoring my wishes and are basically forcing me to go to the school they want me to go to."</p>
<p>The person who pays, gets to make the final decision. If the price will be the same at your choice and at their choice, you may want to ask a guidance counselor or teacher who can support your choice to talk with them about it. You also need to be open to your parents' reasoning. This may not be a control issue at all. They may have reasons that you can accept as being reasonable if you just give it time.</p>
<p>Back in the last century, my best friend wanted to study a major her parents wouldn't pay for. She tried their choice of major for a semester and hated it. She moved home, got a job for a couple of months, and then enlisted in the US Army. She had a great career in military intelligence, and eventually completed college through the Ph.D. on Uncle Sam's dime. You do have options. Take a look around you, and find out what they are.</p>
<p>I chose where I went to college, but I also paid for it. My parents approved of the choice; even though they were not contributing at all, I doubt I would have selected a college they disapproved of. We'll be paying for our kids' college educations, so we will have input. I wouldn't even think of dictating which particular school (or even type of school) they'll attend, but if one of my daughters were to choose a school I had a problem with, I wouldn't pay for it unless she was able to convince me it was a good choice.</p>
<p>What is your parents' objection to your first two choices?</p>
<p>As parents, there was no way we were making our daughter's decision for her.....we examined the pros and cons of each of her acceptances with her, but in the end, it is her life, her decisions......and we are financially supporting her education 100%</p>
<p>With our younger daughter, we haven't started the process yet, but she knows our philosophy...</p>
<p>The advantage of this approach is the following: the girls know not to even have a school on their list that is not a "fit"....after that, it's their choice......</p>
<p>I'll get to chose where I want to go, but my parents will have a major say in it. If I chose somewhere really expensive, they may refuse to help me or they may only be able to help me a little bit.... they'll still let me chose where I want to go, but depending on where it is, it may be up to me to make it financially.</p>
<p>Our son was accepted ED to his dream school. We are paying and we fully support his choice! He welcomed our input when coming up with his final list after looking at a quite a few schools, but ultimately, we feel he is 18 and old and mature enough to make these decisions for himself. We would never have conditioned our payment on any particular schools.</p>
<p>A word of advice- when I went through the application process I applied ED to a school which my parents thought would be a good place for me. Thankfully, I was deferred and ended up at a school which was my first choice. If possible, work collaboratively with your parents so at least you have a mutual understanding of everyone's preferences.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>Wow, there are so many ways this decision can go down, and the major correlary is the decision making style of your home... and culture. Some homes are autocratic, some are laissez-faire, some are collaborative.</p>
<p>In my case I wanted for personal reasons to attend a Top 30 research university in a larger city... my parents wanted me to accept my Top 5 admission. We worked out a deal where I would matriculate to the Top 5, and after the first semester decide if I would try to transfer to the Top 30... which I did. All worked out well, and it was the correct choice for my specific career objectives.</p>
<p>My mom likes one school (MUCH closer) and my dad likes another school (my top choice), and I'm 99% sure I'm going with the school my dad likes. My parents said I could go anywhere I wanted to, but I believe that they do make a huge impact on your decision.</p>
<p>It makes no sense at all for parents to try to force an adult or very-near-to-adult child to attend a school they wish not to attend. College is all about what the student wishes to make of it. Attendance at a particular school upon compulsion is unlikely to have anything but the worst of negative results.</p>
<p>By the same token, parents usually have the student's best interest at heart, they have had more opportunity to learn from experience (usually learning more from bad experiences than from good ones), and they may have a more realistic sense of their child's strengths and weaknesses than the student himself or herself.</p>
<p>So regardless of the extent to which parents contribute financially, their informed advice and counsel is priceless (even if one parent advocates one school and the other advocates another).</p>
<p>I get to choose, since my parents are contributing about $100.</p>
<p>The school is really the one who has the most say in the matter ;)</p>
<p>My choice, but my parents offer input and I choose to listen to and at least consider their advice.</p>