I understand if it’s for Greek life, a small friend group, or if it’s really crowded, but doesn’t it just suck when certain parties act his way?
It’s quite unfortunate, but imagine this situation:
It’s a slow night and there’s not much going on, expect for a house party. The house party only allows certain people in. Maybe it’s to regulate how many people come and go, but honestly, it’s just frustrating when this happens.
If I ever threw a party, then I’d allow anyone in, I don’t care, unless if it gets too crowded or crazy, then I’d try to fix any problems. In the end, it’s technically the underage drinkers fault because they decided to come. But, I’d still have to deal with a possible noise complaint.
Overall, we all like to have fun at college, but understand that some people don’t like to stay in their dorms on a Friday or Saturday night.
Of course it is reasonable to limit who and how many get invited to a house party. The people in the house are responsible for the costs, the property, and their guest’s safety and comfort. A college sponsored event is generally open to all, a house party is a private event.
Throw your own party, then. I would never assume I could just walk into a party where I didn’t know somebody, wasn’t invited, and/or wasn’t brought as someone’s guest.
A whole lot of your threads are related to partying. How’s your GPA? Last fall you seemed concerned because it was a 2.6. We’re you able to raise it any?
@austinmshauri It’s getting better now (3.0 or slightly higher), but just because I post stuff about partying and other random questions on here doesn’t mean that I’m crazy about it. I just want to get people’s thoughts and opinions on certain topics that are related to college. Furthermore, I’m not sure what colleges you go to, but it sounds like some people on here aren’t so fond of discussing the fun side of college.
Now, I’m going to tell you why I post these topics:
When I decided to join this site, I fell in love with it. I could finally ask questions and get people’s opinions on here. But after a couple of posts, I’ve learned quickly that there’s a certain stigma on here. My “party” posts and my negative past experiences suddenly became a breeding ground of constructive criticism.
Even though I’ve reacted negatively at times, I found out that some of the users on here we’re just trying to help me get through my tough times. I only got frustrated because some people thought my ideas were bad, even though some of them sounded questionable. A classic example was how my college does the DD system:
“People post their numbers and availability on our party Twitter page. The rates usually range between $1-5 depending on where you want to go. To a party, back to your dorm/apartment, Sheetz, etc. Although, I’ve never heard of any contracted Uber and/or Lyft drivers up here, which is quite weird for a college town.”
Overall, I believe that my posts aren’t that bad. In fact, I should’ve just accepted the comments and advice from them because I think differently from others on here. So, it’s all opinion based: Some people liked my ideas and others didn’t.
I’m glad your GPA is better. Sometimes the first semester is the hardest. Many of us are parents who want to encourage students to get their money’s worth out of the academic opportunities their college has to offer. Drinking and partying aren’t the only ways to have fun in college. As long as you find a way to balance the fun and the work, you should do fine.
As host/hostess of the party, YOU are responsible for the behavior of those attending. If anyone fights, is hurt, drinks underage, uses illegal drugs or causes any damage or mess, YOU as the host/hostess can be in trouble.
It’s a good idea to know all the people who you are going to be responsible for. There are quite a lot of people I wouldn’t want to be responsible for, myself.
Yeah, a lot of times it’s about controlling damage and lowering the chances of involving the police or public safety.
If you only let people in your immediate network in - or at least friends of friends - you either know the person directly or know someone who will vouch for their ability to not throw up in your ficus, rip your wallpaper off in a drunken rage, or annoy your neighbors to the point that they call the cops. And trying to kick people out of a party is way harder than preventing them from coming in in the first place.
It’s not really the host’s responsibility to make sure that you have something to do on a Saturday night. There are lots of ways to occupy your time, including throwing your own shindig if you want to.
Homeownership doesn’t really matter, IMO; renters can lose their security deposit or be charged for damages. Also, renters generally dislike their stuff being destroyed just as much as homeowners do.
My house, my party, my rules. So I can invite who I want and not invite/bar who I don’t want. What’s the issue? If you want a party, you can always create your own.