<p>her reply was lets be friends...she said she did not know me that well and that she is still trying to get over her breakup with her ex over the summer. will i ever have a chance with her or will we always remain friends? she said that i should take some of my friends to hang out with her friends as well. she really enjoys my company. i am wondering if i do not call her ever again, will she want me eventually?</p>
<p>I don’t know about all girls, but if someone stopped calling me because I said I just wanted to be friends I would pretty much hate them. If you don’t appreciate me enough to want to be my friend even if I can’t give you more than that, you don’t like me enough to deserve to date me anyway. Your best bet is to just be patient and, if you meet someone else you like, don’t hold yourself back. There is no rushing getting over an ex and you dont want her to jump into a relationship she’s not ready for.</p>
<p>Never understood why it takes people forever to get over an ex… it makes me wonder why the broke up in the first place if they still have feelings for them :/</p>
<p>Like everything in life, it’s all in the timing. If you are an impatient fellow, I’d move along. It’s not happening anytime soon. The ex is still calling the shots.</p>
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<p>Maybe the other person did the breaking up?</p>
<p>Nine times out of ten, “I’m still getting over my ex” is just a convenient way to let someone down nicely. They aren’t really that hung up on them. Just sayin’.</p>
<p>OP, sounds like she just doesn’t like you “in that way.” She likes you enough as a friend to keep hanging out (she’ll start making excuses about being busy all the time otherwise), so stick around and maybe she’ll introduce you to her other friends. You might have better luck with one of them.</p>
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<p>^ 'Tis true.</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with not talking to her again. It won’t make her like you however. You don’t owe her your friendship either. You’re dead in the water. I am sorry to tell you this but that is how it is.</p>
<p>“Yesterday, i told a girl that ive been dating that i really like her…”</p>
<p>whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy…and yea you have no chance.</p>
<p>Let her go, unless you are fine hanging out with her knowing nothing will happen between the two of you. There are some girls that are fun to hang out with in any capacity, even as a buddy. Not all girls, but some. </p>
<p>I regards to what twistedkiss said: If someone wants to date a girl, but won’t be friends with her if his romantic overtures are turned down, then it could also mean that the girl isn’t really that interesting when you take physical attraction out of the equation.</p>
<p>“I regards to what twistedkiss said: If someone wants to date a girl, but won’t be friends with her if his romantic overtures are turned down, then it could also mean that the girl isn’t really that interesting when you take physical attraction out of the equation.”</p>
<p>To clarify, I definitely think it’s okay to not want to be friends after getting rejected, I just think that if you don’t think the person has redeeming qualities outside of a relationship then it wouldnt have been a good relationship anyway. If the girl isnt that interesting outside of physical attraction why would you actually want to be in a relationship with her?</p>
<p>^You’ve just discovered a fundamental difference between men and women.</p>
<p>That is to say, guys will put up with a lot more negatives from a women they’re fooling around with than one with whom they’re just hanging out as buddies.</p>
<p>I am spoiled I guess because my boyfriend is NORMAL unlike the rest of you fools. 
I haven’t had to translate manthink in a while.</p>
<p>And by “normal,” you mean “feminine”?</p>
<p>Does no one think that the original post doesn’t make much sense?</p>
<p>Like, for instance – how can you be “dating” and yet the girl is not aware that you are interested in her romantically. Hell, that’s kind of what happens when you ask someone out on a date. Unless you just “hung out” a bunch of times - you thinking you were courting her - she thinking it was just a friends thing.</p>
<p>Usually when someone tells me they are “dating” someone it’s the pre-relationship phase and usually they know each other somewhat well and like each other romantically. But I guess it’s possible you went on a couple dates with this girl and there was no chemistry.</p>
<p>Anyhoo — when a girl says “let’s be friends” you’re pretty much screwed. </p>
<p>There are some ways to get out of the friendzone, but they take a lot of time and effort and are unlikely to work. In my experience, they pretty much involve either the girl seeing you as a completely different person after some time has elapsed (because you have changed, not because she forgot you) - or because the girl “friended” you because she has a boyfriend but still finds you attractive. But most of the time the girl in question simply does not like you - and that won’t ever change. Hence, move on.</p>
<p>By the way not being friends with someone after they rejected you is not required — but it does make perfect sense. Friending a “crush” after she rejects you just seems a tad pathetic to me - like you’re clinging on to her attention even if you can never have her. Of course, if you want to be friends with them, go ahead. But it doesn’t mean it was “purely physical” if you don’t want to buddy up with someone.</p>
<p>Also, does anyone ever get tired of girls bragging about their boyfriends? I feel that guys seldom ever brag about or bring up their girlfriends.</p>
<p>There have been so many times - multiple times - where a girl I know keeps talking about a boyfriend that is never around — she compliments him, says he’s awesome, handsome, awesome job, yadda yadda. I always begin picturing some muscular Don Juan character who looks like a fitness model, has his wardrobe together, and is Mr. Cool. And I’m like, hm… interesting - I’d like to meet such a put-together man.</p>
<p>Then, when you finally meet the boyfriend a month later because he’s stopping by from out of town ---- he’s sorta shy, geeky, and a bit awkward. And I feel kind of disappointed for the girl. Like where is the Don Juan I envisioned you dating? I guess girls like talking up their bfs a lot.</p>
<p>Or maybe girls just have different priorities than men do. <em>shockandawe</em></p>
<p>Women are a reflection of men, the more important the man, the more important the woman.</p>
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<p>Apparently you’ve never had a breakup then. It’s called being human.</p>
<p>“Will she want me eventually?”</p>
<p>Probably not. Once that f bomb gets dropped, the possibility of a future relationship looks pretty bleak. </p>
<p>P.S. CC really needs a quote button. Would make things so much easier.</p>