<p>lol. I'm not being obnoxious, she needs to be more direct.</p>
<p>I don't want to discourage you, but chances are you're going to end up sleeping with a number of guys before you find the one you like enough (and they like you too) that you start dating seriously. You're probably gonna get screwed over a couple times but that's life right there.</p>
<p>Well from what I understand, when you're a girl, having sex has like an inverse effect than if you're a guy. We're encouraged and congratulated. The more guys a girl has sex with, the more she's gonna be labeled.</p>
<p>Ugly girls with boyfriends are dating ugly guys. I have never seen a couple where one of them is good looking and not the other. Nobody is saying that the OP doesn't have dates because she's ugly. Some of us are simply stating an observation. </p>
<p>I also agree with allie's point on crashing random parties and hooking up, although that is probably not someone would be intereseted in if they're looking for something serious and worthwhile.</p>
<p>^my girlfriend is MUCH better looking than me...and as others can attest to, I'm not ugly, more like average or "cute", maybe a 6...but my girl is a dime (10).</p>
<p>Thing is, guys have a mixed blessing-we can leverage our looks with game. Likewise, I know a guy who looks like Ben Affleck, and is a virgin at 24, not by choice...he's just too awkward. </p>
<p>Also, there ARE pretty girls that don't get hit on, but it's generally because they DON'T want to get hit on, look down at the gound, look ****ed off, feminist, etc. But the OP seems to want to be hit on...so, I dunno. The thing Aspiring said about sexuality is true. If your not fat, and your not in the 5-10% of the population that's simply busted, try bringing out your sexuality.</p>
<p>you often see more attractive girls with less attractive guys as opposed to the other way around.
some say this is because guys are (relatively) more into looks than girls, who are more inclined to base their impressions on a guy's personality.</p>
<p>just saying.... ;)</p>
<p>If I was interested in a serious relationship I would date a less than hot girl, and I would find a girl with similar intellectual pursuits. My girl is leaving in a month, but I don't think I would stay with her otherwise. She gets hit on too much. It's annoying, and threatening to me cuz sometimes the guys who hit on her are like 6" taller and a lot better looking. Also, she's about 30 IQ points lower than me...so, she's dumber and better looking. I still really like her, but I digress</p>
<p>What I've learned (from talking to a lot of my guy friends) is that guys are not looking for relationships in college. 90% of guys are looking for one night stands at the local bar, and the other 10% may continue to date the girl after hooking up at the bar. But the fact is, that most guys see college as a place to experiment, not the place to get tied down and find the "one". So, if you are looking to have fun, get a fake ID as early as possible, go to the bars and hook up. If you are looking for a boyfriend, then I sincerely wish you the best of luck in finding that 10%. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, trust me, a lot of girls are in the same situation as you when they first come to college. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and there is absolutely nothing that you have to change. You just have to lower your expectations, and if you meet someone, then great, just don't expect it to happen in the first week of college. You can't plan for this. All you can do is be yourself, get involved in stuff that you're interested in, meet people, and have fun.</p>
<p>^^ That's strange. I thought that 90% of girls look for the same thing as guys. Lots of them wanna go to parties and hook up with random guys. It's true.</p>
<p>if ur hott then i dont see whats the problem</p>
<p>I think it's funny how all the guys on this board pretend to know what girls are thinking and the girls what guys are thinking.</p>
<p>^well said</p>
<p>Most likely half or more of your guy friends have or have had a thing for you at some point. I thought a lot of the same things in high school and only dated a few guys (mostly because I thought just about all of the guys in my area where complete douches), but I found out by the end of the summer after my Senior year that every one of my straight guy friends had a crush on me at some point but thought I would laugh at them if they asked me out. </p>
<p>If that's the situation you're going through, then you'll either continue to be the friend and never the girlfriend or you can take some initiative and start making a move yourself. Guys are no less afraid of rejection than we are and most of them appreciate a girl letting them know that they're interested. Even then, though, it'll come down to whether the guys you're interested in return the feelings. I had a lot of guys interested in me my first year but only one that I actually cared to date...so be prepared to weed out the ones that aren't your type. </p>
<p>Also, it seems silly and I always used to argue about this with people (before I found out about my high school guy friends, obviously), but most guys don't want to just be friends with girls. They're either interested in dating them, want to hook up with them, want to rack up some options, want to get with a friend of theirs, using them to boost their egos, or only being friendly because you're dating one of their buddies. Every now and then a guy will just want to be friends with a girl without an ulterior motive, but the other situations are much more common.</p>
<p>Alot of my college friends say being single is just alot more fun in college. You're not tied down, you can go aroudn to parites and flirt, and you can really just hang out/do whatever you want, whenever you want and dont have someone nagging at u. </p>
<p>On that note, I'm not one to say anything since I'll be going into colelge doin ga Long distnace relatinship. -smacks head on wall-</p>
<p>And yes, any guy who believes they know whats going on a woman's head is insane. I've been close to one for 1.6 years and I dont know anything either.</p>
<p>Katho said it, so did I .</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone who posted advice, helpful, and constructive.</p>
<p>To others: it is easy to be blunt without being rude- you should try it. Another thing, its sort of hard to take someone's advice (firewalker) when they are posting comments about dating issues on a friday night.</p>
<p>To answer some questions:
proton: a 7.5 (not trying to be conceited, just honest)</p>
<p>avant-garde: why?? do you think guys can sense that?</p>
<p>CollectivSynergy: I would tell you my name and school, but we'll probably end up being friends next year, knowing my luck ;)</p>
<p>Puzzled88: sounds odd, but i'm open minded</p>
<p>Doppelganger0330: I used to live in Dallas, but am staying in New York with family for the summer</p>
<p>To be honest, I am really not bad looking. I DO go to the gym, I'm tan (but not toooo tanned), nice teeth, skin, and a fun personality everyone says. </p>
<p>???? I am just going to try to make my intentions more know I guess. As you guys said I should flirt with them because they might even already be into me.</p>
<p>errr. This thread has gone from advice to stalkerish... lol AJM i would stop answering public q's over a website as open and public as this</p>
<p>give me your number</p>
<p>ajm,
you are probably like me. I think I am good looking, probably a 8 out of 10 maybe 8.5. But I am a bit awkward, not as in being sketchy and not saying anything, but sometimes saying the wrong thing or talking too much. Furthermore I am just oblivious to the signs females give me. So I feel your pain, because I really have no personality flaws, bath, work out, etc. It is frustrating...</p>
<p>In psychological studies, everybody ranks themself as above average looking. Obviously, in a random stratfied sample, this is impossible. Half of them must be below average looking. </p>
<p>Also, to dattyl18, your looks don't really matter so much as your height and build. Women are different than men in that regard.</p>