<p>Thought I could post this here to see if any parents can help me out with any legal advice. Thanks
Hello I have an immature CHILDISH 30 year old roommate. I met this guy through my girlfriends cousin at family parties. Supposedly they were “lovers” even though he still has different girls that he meets from craigslist stay over. Anyways my girlfriends cousin buys EVERYTHING for this guy such as groceries, laundry det, cleaning supplies (mops, bleach), comes on the weekends and cleans his room, buys him weed (medical card) ALSO transfers money to him through money gram to buy WEED. After she leaves (from a weekly weekend stay), a DIFFERENT girl is over within an hour or so. If he didn’t treat her badly and was kind to her I would keep to my own business BUT he treats her really badly. He doesn’t appreciate ANYTHING she does and its always expected that she’ll take the bill when eating out. ON TOP of all that he’s super messy and dirty. The house contains a total of 4 roommates (including me) which 3 of us just moved in. The 30 year old immature child has lived her for a while with 3 girls (they ALL moved out the same time, which recently I found out by the cops that he threatened to kill one of the girls family). I only knew this guy since summer and did not know any background about him. For the first month we moved in one of the roommates cleaned the bathroom which was completely horrid before it was cleaned. I thanked him and told him I really appreciated it and I would keep it clean. The 30 year old immature roommate STILL used our bathroom even though he had the masterbedroom with a PERSONAL bathroom. He would use the bathroom to shave his WHOLE body and leave nasty water all around the sink even though theres a towel designated for that. He would use our toilet and not flush it. He NEVER did his dishes and would leave it piled to the top. I would use plastic utensils so I never had any dishes. I just felt bad because the roommate that cleaned the bathroom also had to do his dishes ALL the time. Last Friday on the 11th I received a call from my girlfriends cousin asking if he (30 year old immature child) texted me because he used me as leverage against her. He threatened her that if she stopped talking to him that he would kick me out. My girlfriends cousin has been asking me, “why don’t you like this guy?” I told her everything listed above and she still asked me another 7 to 8 times and I found out that it was HIM (30 year old immature child) that kept pushing her to ask me. She asked me once more and it was right before an exam…literally right 5 minutes before. She texted me the same thing asking why? She included that he was jealous that I asked my roommate (guy who cleaned bathroom) and his girlfriend to split the cost of costco pizza and that I did not include him (even though he was asleep). THEN she also said that he was jealous because I have converstations with the other roommate (bathroom cleaning roommate) when he came home at 3am. Well that stupid text message stayed in my head during my test and I was integrating the whole time when I should have been DERIVING! So I’m pretty sure I didn’t do so well. I was mad when I got home and had a talk with her about the text message. I told her to bring him out so I could talk to him about it…he didn’t want to come out. Then I told her, “see look, he doesn’t even want to talk, how immature is that?” I purposely said it loud so he could hear and want to come out and talk to me (he did). Then he went on to say that the house that we live in is not a boarding house where roommates just walk by each other and not say hi and that we live in a house (his moms name is on the lease for the house so he believes that he can act as the “man” of the house and do whatever he wants”. I went on to say that he just needs to deal with it and grow up. Then I brought up the fact that he threatened my girlfriends cousin to kick me out if she stopped talking to him. Then he tried to act like he never said that (denied) and he exploded and said YOU KNOW WHAT? I DO WANT YOU OUT. We went on a whole argument about how he needs to grow up then get over it and how I need to get out. We weren’t really getting to each other so I got the other roommate to come in and mediate things. He said, “Sam (30 year old immature child) how hard was it to find a roommate?” he said ,” not hard at all.” Then the roommate said, “Common, I saw the add on craigslist for at least 2 months.” Which the last and final room was empty for 2 months after I and the bathroom cleaning roommate moved it. I just laughed. He went on to say about how he can speak “smarter” than I do because apparently I don’t know how. Then I said, “yeah that’s why you’re 28 or 29 still trying to get your Bach degree.” He definitely set himself up for that one. Well I just went back to my room to do my own thing because everything he wasn’t making sense about anything or talking about irrelevant things. So everything was calm for at least 5 to 10 minutes until he walked through the hallway and went into my room (which I was sitting down on my comp chair minding my own business) and yelled with all his might, “YOU’RE DONEE!!!!! YOU’RE OUTTT OF HEREEEEE!!!!” I just smirked and laughed because this guy is still coming at me and it was just ridiculous. He said that he would make it his mission to get me out and that he doesn’t care about school or anything else except getting me out. He called the cops on me because I have a medical marijuana grow which I told him before I moved in( I have a medical card) and tried to get me introuble (which nothing happened). He threathend me to stay in my room because he’s going to mess with my property. Well the next day I went to the library to get out of the house and study. I came back to find out that he had shut off the electrcity to attempt to “kill/drown” my plants (which didn’t work). It had been shut off for about 2 hours. ON TOP of that he BROKE my window to my room because he was trying to make an entrance into my room (I barely found out this afternoon when I woke up and looked outside my window). I have PVC piping on my window to keep it locked so nobody can get through the window. The window was broken on the bottom half near the PVC pipe. I’m guessing that he did this so he can have easy access to remove the PVC pipe and gain access through opening my window. I called the cops and he left right after I got off the phone with them. The cops told me that they’ve been at this house before with the previous roommates (3 girls). The cops gave me 2 options of 1) get a restraining order on this guy 2) call the landlord to get him evicted. I told the cop about the pizza and conversations with the roommates and how he gets jealous, the cop replied, “wow, sounds like this guy needs some friends.” I laughed So I believe that tomorrow I’ll be getting a restraining order on this guy so the police can have more authority if he decided to do anything. I haven’t had any contact or interactions with this guy since our argument and he STILL KEEPS GOING. I’ll be packing my things tomorrow to stay with a friend from highschool that attends the same university. I rather not deal with this immature 30 year old that still keeps going with these stupid comebacks even though I STOPPED talking to him along time ago. Any legal feedback that I should take actions of? Thanks!</p>
<p>Your post is way to long. State just the facts and use spaces. Just from the beginning of your posts, most of what you wrote is none of your business. Let the immature 30 year old work his situation out with his girlfriend (perhaps she already knows about a lot of the things you wrote about and is still choosing to stay with him.</p>
<p>Stay out of other people’s relationship because most of the time it will be a no win situation especially if they are going back to one another despite what you say.</p>
<p>Why are you living with a 30 year old?</p>
<p>Is moving out an option?</p>
<p>IS your name on the lease? </p>
<p>If not, then you have no legal right to be there and you probably won’t be help to use a restraining order to keep him out of his apartment, especially if his name is on the lease. In some states if you are there more than 30 days, you can be evicted through housing court (but do you really want to be on the receiving end of the aggravation?)</p>
<p>The funny part is that I havent been in his business I do my own thing (stay in my room, go to school and study, go to gym). It’s just that I’ve witnessed all those things and decided not to associate myself with this guy. He got mad because of that along with inviting my other roommate and his girlfriend for costco pizza also just because I have conversations with the other roommates. He gets jealous because of those things, I was told by my girlfriends cousin which is his “lover”.</p>
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<p>You need legal advice so you turn to anonymous posters on the Internet? </p>
<p>Call a lawyer.</p>
<p>Please write in paragraphs. :)</p>
<p>And please consider finding another place to live.</p>
<p>If your name isn’t on the lease, simply find another place to live and move out.</p>
<p>thanks sorry so long and didn’t write paragraphs.
key words that happened here.
i was in imminent danger (when he came into my room and yelled in my face at the top of his lungs (YOU’REEEEE DONEEE!!! YOU’REEE OUTTTT OF HEREEEEE!!!), fear of harm (violent acts), inhabitable (broken window during the winter = superrrr cold nights), and there was threat to myself and my property (when he purposely broken my window on the bottom half of the glass to get access to a PVC pipe that i use to lock the window. Then for future purposes when none is home he has an easier time getting into my room through the window).
In the end I believe by a miracle everything i hope for (even though it was a long shot) happened today. I was able to move out of the place by today and live on the campus apartments (even though the price was kind of high), talked to the landlord about this situation (i moved in with only a verbal agreement so my deposit was in the hands of the 30 year old guy which i’m sure that i would never receive) and get my deposit back. Apparently this isn’t the first time roommates had a problem with this guy, the cop that arrived on Sunday (when I found out about my window) said that he has been to this house before and the problem was with the same guy. Now I can study peacefully. WHOOOOOOOOO.</p>
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<p>Does your cousin know this or does she think they’re exclusive? I’d be concerned if one of my family members was in this situation, especially with someone as immature and self-centered as your ex-roommate. It’s really none of your business but if you’re close to your cousin you might make sure that she’s been tested for STD’s recently and is taking precautions.</p>
<p>You need to pack up and move out immediately. Take photos of everything you can. You have to document everything, get copies of utility bills, etc. There is not much you can do since he’s never actually physically assaulted you. However, if you move out and your name is on that lease, you are still legally responsible for paying your portion of the rent/bills. If he takes YOU to court, then you will need to prove to a judge as to the conditions that you are claiming. However, medical card or not, growing marijuana will not sound good in court, lol! Can you see how this will sound to a judge, “um, yeah, he tried to kill my marijuana plants, judge”. My best advice is to pack, document what ever you can, and leave immediately. You need to just get yourself out of this situation. </p>
<p>Share the personal information with the cousin/friend AFTER you have left. I agree that she needs to know bc of the health risks involved. If this person continues to threaten, or stalk you after you’ve moved out, then you will be able to call police etc. </p>
<p>And just to confirm: Did the police arrest anyone when they were called to your house? Do you now have any kind of record?</p>
<p>I’m sorry, I just read your update! I am extremely happy that you are out of that house (with all your belongings I hope!). That was a quick turn around and you did the right thing. That was a toxic situation. Best to you. and Yes, study and put this BEHIND you now.</p>