A Big Thank you to CC as the Journey Comes to an End!

I want to express my profound thanks to everyone on here who shared their expertise, their experiences, their wisdom, their advice!

I started out as a parent of an “average excellent” student who always had perfect grades. Like most parents - I thought that was the key to all those named schools we hear so much about.

Over time I learned and learned, I researched, I read the Fiske guide, I came on here.

We got the fantastic advice to apply to UPitt early in the rolling admissions cycle. She had an acceptance in hand early, along with a scholarship. She also was on the path to the Chancellor’s Scholarship. She was eventually offered the Chancellors but for reasons detailed below, didn’t accept it.

As we researched and talked the lure of a women’s college began to take hold. She applied to 4 of the seven sisters and was admitted to all 4 of them. Scholarships from 3. No scholarship from Wellesley because they do not have merit aid.

She had a big list compared to most people on CC - she applied to 21 schools. It was a lot of work. But, in the end, the results were worth it. She did have too many reaches. But with a SAT of 1550 and very high grades they actually seemed possible at the time. Lesson learned.

We did our visits after the admissions came out - helped us to target our visits a bit. The women’s colleges again stood out with amazing dorms, science facilities, campuses. She just fell in love with the coziness, the traditions, the focus on STEM, the focus on raising up future women leaders.

She has experienced what it feels like to visit a school that LOVES you (the Dean meets you, you are given access to numerous students, they have special tours for you) and to visit a school for whom you are just another number.

She has experienced being wooed by a school for a prestigious scholarship - the UPitt interview experience was really, really great.

She has had disappointment but I am so thankful that she never had a dream school that she was focused on. (I really think that might have been the BEST advice I got on CC - NO dream schools allowed).

In the end, she seriously considered UPitt…but it was just TOO big. She really wanted a small, women’s LAC for the next 4 years (and it looks like she will have a chance for a big school for grad/medical school anyways.)

She will be attending Mount Holyoke as a 21st Century Scholar.

THANK you to everyone who shared so willingly with me over this experience.

Congratulations to your daughter @CValle!

Congratulations! And thank you for letting us know :slight_smile:

For future readers, parents or students:
How did she decide between the different women’s colleges?
What surprised you most?
What would you do differently?
I remember that your husband had a set list of 'acceptables" originally- for other children of Asian parents, or parents whose other half is Asian, how did you and your daughter convince him?

@CValle,
Congratulations to your daughter!!!

We attended its “Focus On Admission” day there and were very impressed. We still love the college. I would recommend that parents take their daughters to spend this annual college visit day at Mt Holyoke.

Congrats to your daughter!!! I hope she loves it at Mt. Holyoke!!!

Yay, my alma mater! Congratulations to your daughter, @CValle ! She will love it there!

Excellent. So happy for your daughter!

Congratulations! CC is a wonderful resource, and I have been wondering myself how I will pull away from it. :slight_smile: My daughter also applied to a lot of schools (16, without a true safety in the mix) and truly wished she could go to most of them. I hope your daughter will be very happy and successful at Mount Holyoke!

Congratulations to your daughter and best wishes for a wonderful four years at Mount Holyoke!

Great! Thanks for coming back to share the journey and the outcome. Best wishes for a happy 4 years!

@CValle, you have also graduated – to the Parents Cafe! Please join us!
Congrats to your D. We know a current student at Holyoke and she is thriving. Loves the place. Glad your D cast a wide net, and glad she had fabulous choices. The S of a former colleague of mine got the Chancellor’s at Pitt and had a tremendous experience, but I totally get wanting a smaller school. Best of luck!.

Yeah, join CD and myself in the Cafe, where we watch reality TV, weigh in on MOG dresses and other weighty issues of the day!

I think the journey is just beginning! Please stick around CC! You won’t be sorry. :slight_smile:

Congrats to you and your daughter!!! Keep us posted!

Bff is a MHC grad in stem, excellent education, great opportinities, life long friendships. And you have the consortium.
Congrats.

GREAT school. Congratulations!!!

Wonderful! And if she feels like a different setting at any point she has UMass, Amherst, Smith and Hampshire to choose from for classes :slight_smile:

@MYOS1634

Deciding between different women’s colleges -

Wellesley was a top choice - but they don’t give merit and total all in was $73,000 and we are full pay. It was hard to say no, but we did it. (To be honest, I never liked the vibe. It was the one women’s college that really treated the kids like a number. I get they probably get WAY more kids visiting than the other schools but they could have done a better job of making the young women feel wanted at least.)

Smith was also a top choice but they have stingy merit aid - the lowest of all the aid my daughter was offered - $10,000. They also have a huge construction project on campus - the new library. It will be AMAZING when done…in 2021. My daughter didn’t want to be on a campus that felt like a construction zone. We loved Northampton (and from MoHo it is a quick trip!)

Bryn Mawr gave the most merit aid of the women’s colleges - 30,000. They have a gorgeous campus - really, really lovely. They just were too small at 350 per class. Even with the close relationship with Haverford it felt like it would be too small of a community. The close relationship also means “more dudes on campus” as my DD noted - and that was not what she was looking for in a women’s college. Really, there was nothing not to like…but a choice had to be made!

Mount Holyoke really just did everything right. Good merit aid - 25,000 attached to a special program for certain merit award winners. They showed her so much love. Dean made it a point to meet us on our visit. They had students and professors emailing her. Amazing campus. Close to family in the US. There wasn’t anything that didn’t seem like a good fit. She also really liked the idea of the bigger consortium - taking a class at UMass to see how the big school feels like,or a class at Smith or Amherst just for a change. The science program at MoHo was very impressive and the science building was great. The new cafeteria has to be seen to be believed - beautiful. Loved the charm of the dorms and the traditions.

What most surprised me-

To be honest the fact that a 1550 and perfect IB scores, glowing recommendations and interesting ECs didn’t open even one reachy school door (opened a few waitlists).

What I would do differently -
I think I did a disservice by labeling UPitt my DD’s “safety” school. If I had not done that, maybe she would have been more excited about the school and would have looked at the programs in a different light. So next time around with my son we won’t have “safety” schools. We will have likelys and a few reaches.

I would really think about limiting the super reach applications. It just seems to be getting so ridiculously out of control.

How Dad came around -
First, he loves his daughter and wants her to be happy.
Second, he did his own research and educated himself on the merits of LACs.
Third, his main goal was that she get the foundation she needs for the career she wants. When he saw that the schools she liked could do that for her in an environment that was more suited to her…he came around.

Congrats @CValle Job well done!

@CValle , thank you for your post and in elucidating why your D chose MHC. I too am from India (1st generation) and my Ds were born here in the US. My D1 did her undergrad at Pitt (she chose it over Harvard and UPenn as she was a GAP attendee) and now is in her 2nd year of Med school. She has had a fabulous experience at Pitt, both socially and academically.

Why am I mentioning all this now? I think it is rather important to consider the social aspects while deciding on a college for an international student. I just think that your D would have received a broader “life’s experiences” at a place like Pitt as compared to a more sheltered place like MHC. I still remember when my D was recommended by her elementary school to transfer her to a school for the gifted. But her mom had other ideas. She wanted my D to be raised with kids of her age and abilities and not turn out to be a social misfit. And that was one of the best decisions we have ever made!

Congratulations to your D and to your family!