<p>If this was my daughter who often had inter mural sports at night, I would tell her to make sure her stuff was all organized for the shower , towel etc and make it a quick shower with all drying off in the bedroom. College is noise. Roommate needs to chill</p>
<p>Cobrat - “Don’t know how NEU’s campus culture is nowadays”…then why go on? </p>
<p>All of this is second hand information, dated, and really doesn’t help the OP in the least. The OPs DD isn’t taking part in a zoo-like atmosphere, loud music/TV/PC multimedia. We’re talking about a SHOWER. I’m tempted to write a thread about the school overseas where my brother teaches masters courses and see if you have any friends or relatives with experiences to share. ;)</p>
<p>“Off-topic, I know, but where the heck are this kids going to school no classes before noon is a routine occurrance?”</p>
<p>My upper level and masters courses (very large state U) were only offered after noon on Tue/Thur or Mon/Wed. However, this was B-School and just about everyone had a part-time job or internship in their field. So in my case I had classes T/Th and worked a full day M/W/F at an accounting firm.</p>
<p>I do agree that it is unusal for a freshman to not have an early morning class every day. Not that later times are not offered (they are), but those sections fill up before most freshmen can schedule.</p>
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<p>Is there really a college or university that has an intramural sport that goes to midnight? I’m somewhat hard pressed to believe that. Now if you were saying in intramural that went to 9:30 or 10…but then the kids hit the town until midnight…that I would believe. Regardless a quick shower is just as loud as a long shower, there is no “quiet” shower unless you never turn the water on…just shorter period of time.</p>
<p>My D is at a small LAC where Tuesday/Thursday she has no class until after 2 in the afternoon.</p>
<p>It may an irrelevant anecdote, but 11 PM start time for intermural sports were not unusual when I was an undergrad.</p>
<p>If it is an intramural sport that is causing this girl to shower at 1:00 AM, shower at the rec center instead…</p>
<p>Not to beat a dead horse but…</p>
<p>Having the OPs DD change her schedule completely really isn’t a compromise at all. I guess that’s what I’m missing in the equation and feel the rm needs to be a part of the solution, not simply dictating ‘hey, you need to change’. Without knowing the rm’s schedule and when she really goes to bed/needs to be up it’s hard to say what’s a reasonable time on certain days. For instance if the rm has an 11am class on W/F perhaps it’s reasonable to ok 1am showers T/TH but the OPs DD agrees not to shower after 11:30 (or whatever agreed upon time) on Su, M & W. There’s got to be some middle ground here. I bet you dollars to donuts that if the rm’s bf came in and woke her up at 1am to crawl in bed because he worked late, etc., I highly doubt she’d be pitching a fit.</p>
<p>I agree that college students tend to stay up late and certainly at large state universities especially, since they tend to have more courses and time selections, a lot of students do what they can to schedule themselves into classes that start later rather than earlier. How successful they are at this depends on the major, the popularity of the course, etc.</p>
<p>I also think the suitemate will have a harder time finding someone who’s on an early schedule and makes no noise later than the D will have finding someone else who’s on the late schedule. </p>
<p>And I also agree that the shower noise isn’t as bad as a suitemate having a gaggle of girls over until 1 or 2 or 3am gabbing it up. </p>
<p>But still, people need to try to get along and reach reasonable compromise. The easiest in this case seems to be for the D to move the shower earlier. If she’s unwilling to do that, then a bit of a compromise could be for the suitemate to get a white noise source and the D to at least attempt to move the shower somewhat earlier, reduce the number of days she takes it late, and when she takes it late, take short quick showers (which may not help if it still wakes up the suitemate). </p>
<p>Has she at least tried turning the water on as lightly as she can instead of full force when she takes the late showers? That can make a noticeable difference in the noise.</p>
<p>Lets’ not be naive here. The only thing the OP’s daughter could be doing until 1 am that requires her to be out of the dorm is socializing–no sports, club meetings, or classes are running that late, and with a little planning a student doesn’t have to be in the library past midnight. And she can bend her social schedule or her showering schedule. I’ve always been a night owl and never had classes until 10, so I often tiptoed back into my dorm room very late after socializing–but I certainly wouldn’t have knowingly done anything that I knew would wake up my roommate.</p>
<p>Um, when you finish a work out or late night sports practice, don’t you walk back into the locker room and take a shower? Why must you shower at 1 am and wake your roommate?</p>
<p>iguana, an adjustment to the shower schedule is a compromise to me. No compromise would be telling her never to shower. ;)</p>
<p>^ I refuse to spit a drop of a decent glass of merlot on my screen, but that comes close…had to cover my mouth. 
(yes, I pushed 5 o’clock here today…if you’d had the Dr’s appt I just endured you would too…I’m willing to share though, grab a glass and join me. )</p>
<p>It’s simple: OP’s D can take her shower in the morning. If she has to shower after a late practice, shower in the locker room.</p>
<p>Showering in the morning does not constitute a complete change of schedule. It’s a reasonable compromise.</p>
<p>If the roommate complains about showers in the AM, or if it turns out she monopolizes the bathroom when D needs to shower, then D can say “either I shower at night or you make the bathroom available to me in the AM: your choice.”</p>
<p>I think that BOTH of them are in danger of landing with far more problematic roomies.</p>
<p>Consider yourself joined! Good luck with your doctor appt.</p>
<p>I suspect DD is visiting a boyfriend in another dorm and some late night hanky-panky is going on (not that there’s anything wrong with that). After they finish up she get’s back to her room late and feels the need to shower and freshen up before hitting the sack.</p>
<p>This is the only logical reason why shower time can’t be moved up to earlier in the evening.</p>
<p>Chisel this may be my favorite response so far on this thread - why would she go someplace else - she has a single - she can hanky-panky in her own room any time of day or night that she wants to!! (Which is what her suitemate does)</p>
<p>Ah, ChiselCheeks thank you for posting this ^^^ before me. The same thought crossed my mind when the OP said, My daughter has tried, unsuccessfully to change her hours in her first post but I was hoping succeeding posts will counter my initial observation so I kept quiet. </p>
<p>And kiddie it may be a dangerous liaison so the less witnesses the better.</p>
<p>Perhaps she feels she needs to keep her mysterious relationship with this boy on the down-low? ;)</p>
<p>If we are making up stuff: </p>
<p>I think that she must be a cat burgler with those late hours. She has to shower when she gets home to remove the black out off of her face and shower away the sweat after running from the authorities all night. </p>
<p>Or maybe she is working as a stripper and needs to clean all of the dirty money and smoke smell off of her before going to bed. </p>
<p>Really, this is a simple matter of a kid who takes showers at night. For what ever reason. And she is busy with college stuff so does not get in until late. Why does it have to be more than that?</p>
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<p>My suggestion is a compromise because 3 nights a week the OPs daughter would shower at 1AM and the roommate would wear earplugs, 2 nights a week the OPs daughter would not shower at night and the roommate would sleep without earplugs (or whatever works for her).</p>
<p>Again, late night activities are common at college. Each of my kids have had many a late night for plays and, again, younger daughter has a class that meets from 7:30PM to midnight next term. Prof does it because he says the kids are more focused, less distracted.</p>