<p>I doubt the OP’s daughter will succeed in convincing the suitemate that the 1am showers are ok, even if within her “rights”. ( I personally don’t think it is her “right”- and this entitlement attitude is part of what is causing the problem.) If she doesn’t change the suitemate will leave. I personally find being awoken, once I have gone to sleep, a problem.</p>
<p>I would have thought a single with an adjoining bath shared by one person would be nirvana. Please PM the name of this college so I can keep this reference for others desiring what seems to be a great living situation. I am not joking.</p>
<p>I don’t “get” why the D can’t shower earlier in the evening. She is out until 1 am two or three nights a week and then must shower?If her classes start so late on some days, she certainly has time to shower in the am.</p>
<p>In college I worked in the library for my part time job, and in those days closed it at midnight. Some nights I did not get in until a bit after 12 (12:20 or so I guess) when I had the latest shift. I did not see many people in the bathroom at all (which was shared by many - in that dorm maybe 25 or more) at that time, when I went to brush my teeth when I got in, although many were up. I think by then they were done washing etc.</p>
<p>Way back when, freshman year, when dinosaurs roamed (and different dorm), I started off showering at night, which I think few people actually did in my dorm. It was one of those huge bathrooms for 50 to share, and not late(didn’t have the job that year), so no noise complaint. It somehow started the day better with a shower, so I changed, and since then I have always followed this practice. After exercise, I showered right away, even if it was a second shower. I would think a change of shower times is not such a big big deal.</p>
<p>OP, you didn’t ask about the bf, and if he is there all the time making noise or using the facilities, which I guess he must. This probably would have bothered me!</p>
<p>In grad school one year I had all 8 am classes, and I had to go to bed earlier than the woman I shared the apt with. She might have a friend over to study or whatever, and they even made up a funny song since it seemed that I went to bed so early (maybe 11pm). This was funny, so it didn’t bother me, but they did try to be quiet once I was in my room.</p>