Alright, so I've got a little problem

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>So, I can't believe I'm posting this here but I think it would help from somebody who doesn't know the people I'm talking about.</p>

<p>Okay, so first of all, before you read this, this is just about a guy. A little bit of drama, so if you don't want to read about this, you can just skip this thread, lol.</p>

<p>So, I'm a little bit weird, I tend to go out with guys that have something wrong with them because I think I can change them? Anyways. I'm like my friend. He's pretty attractive, smart, really funny, and I love just talking to him. He is really sick though; he had meningitis, and as a result, his spleen, heart and brain (I think) are swelling up for some reason and he needs to do surgery or he'll die. He was told he had meningitis on his 19th birthday, it was sad. So, now he's pretty much scarred for life. His mother is a real b*tchhh, she barely visited him, and kicked him out of the house at 16. So here's the bad side, he does drugs, he isn't in school, he's pretty much headed nowhere and if he doesn't do anything he's going to be flipping burgers his whole life (however short it may be :( ) So, I'm trying to help him get his life back on track, he's really smart, and I'm trying to convice him to go back in school, because he wants to become a doctor (like me) but he just lost hope in himself. </p>

<p>So, he's dating my (slutty) friend. She is really cool, but she's a slut. She's only dating him because she thinks he's hot, and doesn't even care that about him. She dumped him, (to my relief). Her reasons were pathetic. She said he acted tough, but really he was just soft on the inside, she said he cried at least like once a day, and he always made fun of her being blonde (I'm not going to lie, she's really dumb, and we would always make jokes about her, lol). BUT HE ALMOST DIED LIKE THREE MONTHS AGO, OF COURSE HE'S GOING TO BE EMOTIONAL. Ugh she can be so rude, it's so annoying. But yesterday, I was hanging out with him, and he told me they're dating each other again. I know for a FACT she doesn't even care about him and what he's doing, she just got back with him because he's "great at sex". I told you she was a slut. Have I told you she cheats on him? She tells me about guys she likes and doesn't see that she ALREADY has a boyfriend. </p>

<p>So, I REALLY want to tell him the truth about her but she IS my friend, no matter how slutty she is. I feel that it is none of my business, and my interferring will cause major drama, which I don't want. I'm moving in less than a year, so I'll will only see them once a year when I go down to visit. So, even if I DO go out with him, I'll be moving, so it would suck.</p>

<p>Should I tell him? Or should I just mind my own business?</p>

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<p>High school drama is high school drama. Life goes on, some of my friends are still in jail.</p>

<p>Don’t worry about it.</p>

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<p>i would tell him;he deserves better than her :
hope he gets better, though!</p>

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Why do you insist on committing to such a project? I’m not going to go all Dr. Drew on you by asking about the father figures in your life (which I feel may be an issue), but I gotta say that you don’t have your priorities straight, either overall or in this situation.</p>

<p>First, what is it that you want? A boyfriend? For them to break up? For him to get surgery? For him to go to school? Your whole story is convoluted and you are obviously confused.</p>

<p>You should first care about and for yourself, even if that means sounding selfish and maybe hurting those around you. You have two people in your life that are causing unneeded stress and silly drama. You are moving in a year, so take that as an opportunity to split paths away from them.</p>

<p>You can’t save everyone. I know it sounds grim, but there is only so much you can do to save his life and/or clean him up. When it comes to him being cheated on, talk to the cheater and set an ultimatum. If she doesn’t come clean herself with the truth, you can just say you gave her the chance. She doesn’t seem like a good influence, so it’s best to just go your separate ways with her if she doesn’t want to stay friends with you…</p>

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<p>why don’t you talk to her first?</p>

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<p>Technically it’s not highschool drama, since neither of them are in highschool.</p>

<p>I don’t know, it’s weird. I’ll go out with a guy and I’m determined that I can help him… it’s really weird, I know. And, no, he’s getting surgery. He has to. </p>

<p>I think I’m just going to mind my own business. He knew she was somewhat of a slut before he dated her, I’m sure he’ll find out on his own. I don’t like drama at all, so I definatley don’t want to start anything. He’s really cool, but he’s made me cry way to many times; it’s not worth it. </p>

<p>Thank you so much for the advice :)</p>

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<p>19 in high school? Wow do you guys go to like an extra year of school in Canada? Two years older than me at my age is really something I can’t relate to.</p>

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<p>No, no. I’m seventeen. He’s NOT in highschool. In canada you graduate at 18, lol.</p>