<p>not really. they're cool.</p>
<p>Look, I will NOT get into an argument/discussion with this young man. He has a perfect right to his opinions, but I just want the younger people on his board to understand that his perspective is just that - HIS perspective only. There ARE others. Kids of the age of these applicants are so hopeful and trusting and so eager to learn all about bs, that I just think it's a shame that you can't temper your remarks, ibftw. Many of them may NOT fully appreciate at their age that your experience honestly may not be THEIR experience. </p>
<p>And I can't remain silent when I think that your opinions are stated like utter facts that would apply to everyone. They apply to YOU, of course, but these 13 and 14 year olds deserve for you to appreciate and understand how impressionable they are. And of course I don't know everything that goes on in my daughter's life - she tells me all the time that I can't know what it's like to attend her bs....but your smart-a-- remark about "thanks for playing" proves to me that, even at her young age, she already is more mature and responsible than you.</p>
<p>Good luck to all the young applicants!</p>
<p>if you can't differentiate me stating my opinion (i made it clear numerous times in the posts that it was just my take, that the experience of others would be valued) from my stating a fact, then you have to consider whether, indeed, you are sharp enough for the boarding school environment.</p>
<p>thanks for stopping in.</p>
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<p>what's your take (i'm assuming you're a parent)?</p>
<p>oh, and by the way, I'm not a man..</p>
<p>your namesake is.</p>
<p>I will not give you punch-for-punch arguments. By the way, you would lose since that's what I do for a living. But, that is not at all the point of this board. This board is not at all about you, or me or anyone else who posts here.</p>
<p>Your remarks to me and many others in the past few months have been rude, dismissive and insulting. You don't see that they diminish you, but be careful because I will seek to have you barred from this board. Do not tell me again "thanks for 'whatever'" I have as much right as you or anyone else to respectfully express my opinions here. If you want to insult and act like a jacka--, go somewhere else.</p>
<p>You may have started this thread so that you could re-live ad nauseum the apparently bad bs experience that you had...but you don't get to do so all by yourself or without comment by others.</p>
<p>do this for a living? are you a sleazy trial lawyer like your sn?</p>
<p>this is a really neat board.
lbftw: if you were going to compare the school YOU went to with it's equal which school would it be? is it more exeter, taft, nmh, or aof?</p>
<p>i don't know what aof is, but i'll go with exeter. there's a poster on here who's current a senior there that has backed me up on this.</p>
<p>edit: wait, avon old farms?</p>
<p>Why don't we just let lbftw state his opinions and people can take them as such. Hopefully, others will state their opinions as well, as sugerkim has. The more opinions the better, IMO. No one should take anything written on a message board on the internet as the gospel truth, anyway.</p>
<p>jedwards, relax, please. i'm not dumb, i'm not taking all this as truth, but lbftw seems to be the only person who will give his opinion honestly. so please, stop complaining about him, stop swearing at him, and let him answer questions that a lot of us (especially me) want answered.</p>
<p>Thank you lbftw for all your time!</p>
<p>NeLLyRaE...You do need to understand, however, that if someone else were heading up this q&a thread, you would get vastly different answers. As long as you keep in mind, that these are one person's opinions, then it's fine.
For instance, if my now 22-year old son were the author of this post, all of the answers would be different.....as would yet another person's.</p>
<p>"lbftw seems to be the only person who will give his opinion honestly"</p>
<p>NellyRaE, this is a statement that makes me nervous. </p>
<p>If you have questions PM him.</p>
<p>I find this thread very frustrating. As anyone who has followed lbftw's posts knows, he generally had a pretty negative experience at BS. Although I do think his posts are candid and he has acknowledged that there were some positive aspects to his BS experience - it's pretty clear that he was unhappy at BS and to some extent is using this board as a way of venting his negative feelings. He certainly has a right to do this, and I do think that some of his criticisms are valid, but he also overemphasizes and exagerates some of the negatives. What you end up getting is a caricature of what BS is like from someone who wasn't a good fit for where he ended up.</p>
<p>The problem is that he is one of the few people who recently attended BS who's posting on this forum. Most of the rest of us are either parents of students who are applying to BS. He therefore, by default, becomes THE inside source of what life is currently like at BS and it becomes difficult to argue with him.</p>
<p>I will tell you that I went to BS approx thirty years ago (I suspect the same one as lbftw btw) and that my son is currently in BS, so I feel I have some insight into what it's like. Of course, my firsthand info. is dated and I'm sure my son doesn't tell me everything that's going on.</p>
<p>However, I can assure you that when I was at BS the student population was pretty diverse and while there were certainly kids who acted like they were characters in a Brett Easton Ellis novel, there were also a bunch of nice, normal down to earth kids (I think I was one of them). I can also tell you that my son is definitely not a precocious New York type kid, nor a super jock, but has managed to find a group of friends who he fits in with and who seem to be really nice kids. He also seems to be genuinely enjoying BS, although like anybody he has good days and bad days.</p>
<p>Frankly, I wish a couple of more kids who are currently at BS, or who graduated in the last couple of years would post more so that the kids applying, and their parents, would get a more balanced view of the BS experience.</p>
<p>lbfty.......That's great! However, your experience may have been different at another BS. Therefore extrapolating your experience at the BS you attended in a negative fashion to other BS may not be on target. Yes, I do have a D at Middlesex and like other places you will have a closer group of friends that are for reasons other than cliques. As per my D this has never been a problem.</p>
<p>The bs parents on writing on this thread seem awfully riled up -- it's not clear to this outsider why. Lbftw's comments are far from uniformly, or mostly negative. He pretty much sticks to answering the questions factually, with some generalizing and some details. As a parent who has had kids in urban public high school, high-pressure east-coast independant private day, private parochial, rich-suburb public high, and sports-blondes middle-of-the-road independant private day AAAAAND had a close brush with sending one child as a day student to a top-5 bs (pausing for breath - and all that with only 3 kids and one big move) I feel he pretty much puts his finger on life as it is experienced currently at east coast bs's, so far as I have gathered from talking to my children, their friends and their parents.</p>
<p>So, thanks lbftw, keep those q's and a's coming.</p>
<p>memake, so did you have a child attend BS?</p>
<p>memake should I as a parent ignore what my D tells me about the school she currently attends and believe lbtfy? Not likely! Am I riled? Not a chance... Just responding to tbfy's observation about a school he has never attended. Look, all schools everywhere have some issues and I personally have no problem with lbtfy's takes. So with that said I'm giving you my D's take regarding Middlesex. I believe it is OK to respond to lbtfy and give him a take from the source.</p>
<p>memake, thanks for the encouragement. once again, for the rest of you, my take, questions sent to me. we had another boarding school poster on here btw - her username was ajadedidealist. consult my other thread and you'd see she basically agreed with me. and i've gotten more than a few pms agreeing with me as well.</p>
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I have a dear friend whose son is brilliant (genius IQ, especially math) but the young man has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). He's a textbook case. The young man wants to attend a top level prep school. He currently recieves medication on school days that helps him focus in the classroom (makes good grades), but he has great difficulty prioritizing tasks and managing his time.</p>
<p>Do prep schools such as AESD have systems in place to help kids like him succeed or is this a receipe for disaster?
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<p>this is a tough question for me to answer, mainly cause i'm not a psychiatrist and i don't know a ton about adhd. i do know that boarding school is heavily structured and regimented; you dress a certain way, you attend certain classes at certain times, you eat at a certain time, you go to chapel or whatever, you do something afterschool, you must be studying by a certain time. would he benefit from that? they could probably arrange some kind of extra study hall for him, or maybe keep a closer eye on his behavior, but obviously can't force you to read and understand the texts. it seems like it might be good environment, but this is somewhat out of my wheelhouse.</p>