<p>I realize that if this is the case you probably wouldn't still bo on CC, but anyone have friends or anything where this was the case? I was accepted, but think I will stay at my current school. I'm nervous I'll regret this later on, and want to hear of other peoples experiences. Thanks!</p>
<p>If you were my kid, I’d strongly encourage you to go to Deerfield for the year. Easy enough to go back to your old school if you don’t like it–but you’ll always look back and wonder if you don’t at least try. LOTS of kids get the jitters the summer before bs, but end up loving it.</p>
<p>You should really go to Deerfield. What you are experiencing are some unique feelings, but would you really want to put all your hard work during the admissions process to waste? Just getting accepted to Deerfield is a feat itself.</p>
<p>if you honestly feel seriously uncomfortable about deerfield, and didn’t feel comfortable during revisit day and felt it wasn’t for you, i doubt your sentiments would change come september (though you <em>might</em> warm to it later). i wouldn’t go just because “getting accepted to Deerfield is a feat”, you should look at whether or not you’d a) enjoy the deerfield experience and B) whether you’d benefit from it. </p>
<p>then again, if it’s just a mild case of cold feet and “will-i-make-friends”, versus actual “i-don’t-think-deerfield-is-right-for-me”… if it’s the former, don’t worry, it’ll pass, but if it’s the latter then perhaps you ought to take a good, hard look at deerfield again and consider your other options as well. </p>
<p>if i were you, i’d probably go and see if i liked it in a month-- if i didn’t, then i’d return back home. if you don’t go, you’ll probably always wonder what it’d have been like, but obviously deerfield isn’t right for everyone.</p>
<p>listen carefully to your gut–sometimes a kid is just not ready or would be better served at home. There may be tough days where you might look at “what could have been” but choose the right path for YOU. We had a friend whose D went somewhat hesitantly and with mixed emotions. She has never quite warmed up to BS the way the parents hoped. She is staying because moving back after starting at one hs is something NO kid wants (change, new friends), so once there, she wanted to stick it out. BUT, she keeps to herself, hasn’t been as engaged, and misses home–very painful to watch as a friend. I think in the end this kid would have been better served to follow her gut and stay home.</p>
<p>I think he should try it for one semester. Sounds like probably cold feet.</p>
<p>I think decision time for the OP is over, but wanted to note that you can’t just ‘try’ these places for a month or a semester. The student is on the hook for tuition the entire year. And really, you need to cycle through the seasons to really know if its a fit. Boarding school isn’t for everyone, and far more than best academics/sports/reputation/etc, what’s utmost importance is the BEST FIT.</p>
<p>The OP didn’t really say how he/she felt during revisit day. I’d say if the prospect had negative feelings during 2nd visit day, then perhaps its not the best fit.
By the way, apparently the weather is the #1 factor towards yield rates on revisit days. Last year we had glorious weather during our kid’s revisit day. This year revisit days at Deerfield had crummy weather.</p>
<p>Listen to your gut, but at least try it. Everyone gets “cold feet” at the beginning when going into a situation that is new. It takes a month or too to acclimate, but you’ll be among other students feeling the same way.</p>
<p>In other words - it’s normal. Only you can tell if this is your gut telling you that you made the wrong decision, or just normal jitters that every student feels in this situation.</p>