@CALSmom That’s what I was hoping was me asking her to meet up at the school’s cafe would be a good idea? Let’s me know she wants to talk, I get what I wanted. Win-win for both of us. It is a dumb english class, but she is into it. It’s not a “english class”, its a media class and she is in the school’s newspaper class with the teacher as the head advisor. I dont know, I personally don’t really care for the class. Maybe there is something I can find to talk to her about?
@coissantsi Had to be assertive there, trust me many girls are like that when they hear “another guy going after a girl’s looks” and it’s off putting and makes me feel dirty dispite not my intentions. Yes, I do think she is very pretty. But no, she isn’t smoking hot and idc if she was or wasn’t. I don’t care about looks to much, just look your best and be confident. If you put the effort, I’ll like it. No, I don’t. All the seats around her are always taken.
@TQfromtheU@gearmom Thank you guys, I truely appreciate the insight of finally someone telling me “it’s not a big deal.” I think I have been asking this for like a week from all over and nobody has said that! Much love to both of you!
Here’s some insight. Back in the day, as an unattached first-year young woman, I accepted every date request. Lunch, dinner, movies, cookies on the patio, walk around the lake, etc. My now-husband complained that I didn’t go out with him. I reminded him that he didn’t ask me out until my second year. No guts, no glory is right!
@TQfromtheU This girl seems very open and talkative. She is literally the only one to answer the questions in class when the teacher asks (For the most part). I just thought maybe we could get together at the school’s cafe and talk there or something, get to know each other there instead of at class (Which is boring and seems she is really interested in the class).
One thing you could do is ask a another girl, maybe a classmate from a different class, who you may be interested in as a friend to a cup of coffee. This isn’t leading her on because it’s just a cup of coffee, but you can test the whole thing and maybe make a new friend in the process.
And if you don’t want to do that, asking a girl out isn’t weird. The worst case scenario? She rejects you and thinks you are weird for a day or two, then forgets about the whole thing. I know it is easier said than done, but one moment of courage can lead to a lot of good times. Give it a go! You can do it!
@ClippersFan4Life I think once I do it once I think I can start it more often. I have ton of guy friends and zero girl friends. Idk, maybe im asking for too much. She is a very open and nice girl, it seems, maybe once she looks at me it may change. Idk, i really dont know haahahahaha. Maybe thats why im asking.
Look, my son was at a campus club fair and saw a girl he thought was amazing. He had never met her. He walked up to her and said “Hi, how are you doing?” just like he knew her. Then he introduced himself and they talked and went of coffee and two months later they are still dating. My husband came up to me freshman year when we were signing up for a test and said hi, introduced himself and we just started talking. He walked me back to my dorm, asked me to lunch the next day and we have been married 37 years! Just go up and say hi! Girls won’t mind. She might say yes, maybe or no. Ask for her number or ask if she will take your number, she might think about it and change her mind later. If you don’t ask you will never know!
@momocarly Yes, I do appreciate this insight and it does encourage me to go up to her and speak to her and see if she wants to meet up so we can get to know each other.
@kywelch17 ^That’s right. It’s cold outside. And remember the rule of soccer. For every ten shots on net, you get one in. The important part is trying.
First I would sit near her.
Then talk to her in the context of class.
Then maybe before class ask if she went to the football game or the concert or some college activity.
If your class is around lunch time, ask if she wants to grab lunch at the cafeteria.
Obviously if there is any homework ask her about that.
No guts, no glory is right!